- September 17, 2023 at 12:12 pm #140683aditi mishraFREE
I’m aditi and I’m excited to join this wonderful transgender forum.Over the past few years, I’ve explored my feminine side through crossdressing, and it has been a significant part of my life. Recently, I had an incredibly affirming experience when I dressed up, put on makeup, and wore a wig. It made me feel like a real girl, and I can’t stop thinking about it.
I’ve been contemplating whether I might be transgender rather than just a crossdresser, and it’s raised many questions and feelings. I’m here to seek support, guidance, and connect with others who may have had similar experiences.
I’m looking forward to being part of this supportive community, sharing experiences, and learning from others. Thank you for welcoming me, and I’m eager to connect with all of you.
- September 18, 2023 at 5:31 am #140707Alexis WassermannMANAGING AMBASSADOR
Welcome Aditi ,
Many have of us have started out the way but those feelings inside get stronger for some who feel they are more then just that . It all starts somewhere so explore your fem side and reach out to others for support . The members here are fantastic and I’m sure you will make many friends here to guide you on your way .
- September 18, 2023 at 6:20 pm #140721
I am finally starting to transition. As soon as I get the gender marker on my Connecticut driver’s license changed to Female this Thursday I will be dressing in only womens clothes FOREVER. Then I will petition the court to legally change my name to Melissa. My middle name will change to Joan which was my late wife’s first name. I am kind of honoring her and I okayed it with her sisters. Last name will remain unchanged. I will be changing everything, registrations, bank accounts, credit cards, deed to my house, etc. Once the court approves my name change, I will demand that everyone address me by my legal name, Melissa. No one will dare call the police and say there’s a man in the ladies room since it will be “Female” on my driver’s license.
We’ll it’s nice to meet you. tell me about yourself.
- September 19, 2023 at 6:58 am #140743
Hi, it’s Melissa. I read that you were not sure if you are transgender or just a cross dresser. I wanted to give you some info on my experience. I am 67 and I started cross dressing in secret when I was 8 years old. I would wear my mother’s clothes when no one was around. I was raised Catholic at the time and I remember silently praying for God to make me a girl in church. As I grew up and went to college I continued to cross dress secretly. I had so much internal shame and guilt that I asked my doctor for anti-depressant meds. I never told anyone the real reason I was so depressed. The medication helped but didn’t cure the problem. In 1988 I married thinking I could keep it under control and I did. However I continued to cross dress in secret. In 2008, when my mother died, I was overwhelmed and had to tell my wife the truth through tears. I sought therapy and went to a transgender support group which helped immensely. My wife was very supportive but feared that I was going to transition. I promised her that I would not transition as long as we were together. It was a painful promise, but it was an act of love. She passed away in 2019. Again the gender dysphoria has returned with a vengeance. I must now transition or there is a real possibility that I might do something terrible to myself.
The point is being transgender is a lifelong issue and it only gets worse as we age. Once you are certain you are transgender, then start planning to transition sooner rather than later.
I hope this helps.
- September 23, 2023 at 11:02 am #140850DeeAnn HopingsAMBASSADOR
Glad that you found us!
Do you have any access to therapy services? If possible, it is a very good thing to do. It can be very difficult for us to work through our gender issues on our own. Our minds will work to shield us from stressful situations because we tend to fear the unknown. However, a therapist who is experienced in working with patients who have gender issues is what is needed. Not all therapists have this background.
One of the things that makes understanding gender issues difficult is that society tells us that if we are born male, that’s what we are. If we are born female, that’s what we are. However, it isn’t that simple. For whatever reason, some of us come into the world with a different perspective. We don’t “become”. We “are”.
Anyway, count us as friends, allies and fellow travelers.
- September 24, 2023 at 3:47 pm #140854
I’m so glad that you are exploring your feminine side through crossdressing. What you may find is that crossdressing or almost any feminine activity will give you some relief from gender dysphoria as it does with me. Because my gender dysphoria got so bad, I only wear feminine clothes from now on. I’m living as a woman full time. Last week I got the gender marker on my driver’s license changed to female. So therefore I no longer think of wearing women’s clothes as crossdressing. In fact, in my mind wearing men’s clothes is crossdressing for me now. Tomorrow I am going to the probate court office to legally change my name to Melissa. This is a milestone for me. One of the things that’s happening to me is that I am starting to really believe that I am a woman. I always pass in public because of all the confidence I now have. I am now smiling and happy when interacting with others in public. You look beautiful when you smile. I have acquired a large number of dresses, skirts, shoes and pantyhose. So I never wear pants in public because I feel a dress makes me look and feel more feminine. When you develop confidence in yourself, passing is no longer a worry as it is for me. Just smile more and that will let everyone everyone know you are happy to be a woman. I hope this helps.
With Love, Melissa
- September 24, 2023 at 7:41 pm #140861Dee HiddenFREE
You do you. Like M.C. hammer says… “Do no harm.”
- September 25, 2023 at 11:22 am #140880𝕋𝕖𝕣𝕣𝕚 𝔸𝕟𝕟𝕖🌸MANAGING AMBASSADOR
Welcome to our TransGender Heaven (TGH) site: A Transgender Support Site. We are a wonderful, accepting, loving, helpful community where you can be safe and be yourself.
You can read about the knowledge and experiances of others on a similar path by reading articles and in the forums and chatting in chat rooms.
My hope is that you will become comfortable here and make many new friends.
Glad you are here. Looking forward to seeing you on the site.
Terri Anne, Ambassador
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- September 30, 2023 at 2:14 pm #140994Natalie GayFREE
My story is a lot like Melissa’s. I dislike pants, I wore em for fifty years, and after that every day at work as the bottom part of my nursing scrubs. Now I’m strictly in dresses, or blouses and skirts or shorts. No guy clothes, ever!
Be good to yourself, stay brave. Peace.
- November 10, 2023 at 11:28 am #141924Ellie DavisFREE
Welcome to TGH 🙂
Like many people here I’m a member of the sister site, Crossdresser Heaven, as well. I’d recommend signing up to both as it gives you a bit of a wider perspective and exposure to a larger cross section of people from all parts of the spectrum. Also, it’s a good source of fashion and make up tips!
Anyway, your experience is a common one. It’s not unusual for those who feel a genuine, sustained urge to cross dress to begin to wonder whether they may in fact be transgender. However, it isn’t necessarily a black and white thing. Labels are useful for communicating ideas, but they shouldn’t define you; only you know how you feel. There are a bewildering variety of terms out there; you may find that none of them quite ‘fit’.
It’s important to realise that you don’t HAVE to be one thing or another. As someone else has already wisely replied, ‘you do you’ 🙂
Having said all that … isn’t it wonderful when you look in the mirror and realise that there actually IS a girl looking back at you, not just the appearance of one?
- November 11, 2023 at 5:27 am #141963Charlene KFREE
I agree with so much that the other ladies here have told you. Moving from being a crossdresser to understanding you are transgender is not inevitable, yet often the two have connection.
I crossdressed when I was younger. It was normally an erotic experience and usually somewhat disheartening. Disheartening because I knew eventually I had to take off all the clothes and go back to my male world. Erotic because it was the means I was able to recover something “good” out of the deep disappointment of having to go back.
Overtime I came to realize I just didn’t want to dress as a girl (now woman), but I truly wanted to be one. Dressing couldn’t achieve that for me, thus the disappointment.
The next leg of my journey was to finally admit and ultimately embrace my reality. I am not simply a man, a male. I am trans. (Gulp)
Furthermore, I finally discovered: OK, just say it, “I am a woman.” Now I understand and readily embrace that despite all outward evidence I am a woman at my soul level. I am not simply a man with a strong feminine side, rather I am a woman who is deeply feminine and longs for the world to know me as such.
That’s where I am now. I am not currently transitioning. I am not sure I ever will. But I am much more open to the idea, tremendous upheavals for many notwithstanding. Maybe transition probably won’t be to full time womanhood, but maybe it will. I don’t know at this time.
The point is that understanding and embracing yourself as trans is a process, a journey as so many call it. I am currently 68. I been consciously on this journey for 63 years. I don’t regret not transitioning earlier. I don’t regret taking all this time to figure it out.
But what I am concerned about is the possible regret that will come if I chose to remain closeted rather than introducing Charlene to the world at large. I am not a man who wants to be a woman, no, I am a woman who simply wants to be. Imagine coming to the end knowing that very few if any actually ever knew the real you.
I hope this helps. May you be blessed in your journey of self discovery.
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