Outed Myself a Little bit More Last Week.

[Toni Floria]

You go Amy,,,!

[missyjo]

Amy

good for you girl. I never planned to tell my family doc but he was asking about ..does everything work fine, still good morning elections etc? um..no. I can get you medical help. um, here’s the thing  I want a vagina. I think I’m trans. he hugged me n smiled. next appointment I went dressed n he squealed with joy n hugged me again. I am so happy for you, be you n happy.

 

he told that to me n I echo it to you n all of our friends here, be you n happy. we love you how you are.

hugs

missy jo

[DeeAnn Hopings]

Amy:

In the best of situations, coming out is a conscious process. I think in many cases it comes down to the particular relationship we have with someone else. The telling point is whether or not the relationship is important enough that we want to be completely honest and respect that relationship. In other situations, such as employment, the realm of transition can come into play. The goal there is to head off any BS by getting your truth out there. As Rachel Maddow put it:

“The single best thing about coming out of the closet is that nobody can insult you by telling you what you’ve just told them.”

But, it also comes down to a matter of how much you want to invest in another person. While that may be true for one person, for another, not so much. While you can tell someone that you are transgender and leave it at that, they will likely have no context for understanding what you said and may fall back to whatever prejudices that they held. That’s why telling ones story can be very helpful.

However, note that our coming out is different from lesbian, gay and bisexual people. They probably won’t look any different from how people knew them, but we will. That’s the importance of thinking about what we need to tell people beforehand versus being confronted and being placed on the back foot. People need to understand that our gender identity isn’t something that happened last week or last year. It is something that has been part of who we are from the beginning.

[Amy Myers]

DeeAnn, thank you for that very good reply, it sure gives me lots to think about.

The quote is very apt, and in a smaller way something I like to do, tell the truth. Which is the main reason I told my adult children about Amy a couple of years ago. I greatly dislike the hiding and untruths this usually entails and especially to those one care’s for.

It was about investing in another person that I shared this with my longest term friend, we in high school in 1969. He has been very supportive and accepting as well!

How far this will go is anyone’s guess as I am so far along this road that I could not have imagined this happening a year or two earlier.

Amy

[DeeAnn Hopings]

As my grandmother used to tell me:

“Lies have short legs.”

[Cassie Jayson]

Coming out is  different for each of us.  Over 4 years ago I accidently let my EX find out my ‘secret’.  The first thing she did was to tell our 3 grown kids, then she threatened to tell my 4 brothers.  Over the following year I told my brothers myself.  I had my now long hair colored (4 times now), have had my nails done for over 2 years.  For a year and a half I have been going to my doctor as Cassie.  went to my dentist as Cassie and even gone to my Church as Cassie for the last month.  I don’t think they were suprized at church, with my done up nails, long hair pierced ears and the fem clothes I have been wearing.  So for myself I am ready to present as Cassie 24/7.  I guess this makes me trans???

 

.  Cassie

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