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Hi,
So I’m a closeted trans male. I’ve been questioning my gender from an early age and only now in my 20s has it become clearer to me that I am indeed trans. Though there’s one thing that’s been bugging me through my whole questioning phase.
I still want to carry a child.
Sounds crazy, right? Men don’t typically want to give birth and I’ve never met a trans male that feels this way too. I’ve just always thought the act of bringing a child into the world was such a beautiful thing that many trans and infertile women would kill for. I haven’t medically transitioned so perhaps it’s the estrogen that giving me these feelings. I’m torn because I do feel like I’ll be more comfortable living as male but I really don’t want to miss out on this part of life.
Does this make me less of a male?
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No, in fact… I also strongly desire to have children. I’m on the fence right now about starting my own transition to ensure that I actually have the chance to have children. I’m 22 and I struggle financially so getting pregnant is unfortunately my only viable choice I can even have a child. It won’t make me less of a man. It’ll just make a father.
Hello, Logan. I considered this back then before starting on my meds, but for me carrying a child would have shot my disphoria up the roof, so it wasn’t a choice. If you think you would enjoy it and are interested on doing so, don’t let that feeling upset you. Having a child is something wonderful! In your position, I would start living as a male changing my clothes and overall appearance, but I would not start taking testosterone until I made my mind about the child. Take your time, make some research, and if possible make contact with a FTM transexual who gave birth to a kid.
Hope it helps!
I never married , don’t have any of my own children . Will never be able to have kids now . I transition in my early 30’s and I’m 50 now . I regret not having kids and this was something at the time I did put a lot of thought into it . At the time I didn’t think it would have wise to get married and have kids only to tell my wife and children that I’m trans and want to be a woman . I felt this wouldn’t be fair to put others through this kind of emotional pain knowing beforehand who I’m . So I have been single my whole life , a few dates here and there , but I’m also no one’s sexual fantasy either . So Here I’m left alone , no one to love or love me back .
Don’t throw this opportunity away .. like I did …
Alexis
No, it doesn’t make you less anything. Do some searching across the Internet as there are trans men who have given birth. I’ve seen 3 or 4 stories over the last few years…
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