Question for all generations

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  • #62611
    Jennifer Scott
    Participant

    I’m 65 and just started HRT four months ago.  I have been very hesitant to come out to the world at large and live my truth 24/7 or even in public.  This is because of what being born in the mid 50s has done.  Everything was gendered and boys did not do anything that smacked of feminism at all.  Both my family and peers looked at everything through that lens.  I made the mistake of telling someone in middle school that I liked to dress.  I was then the object of ridicule and worse.  My father was no different.  I learned to do everything in secret.  As I was finishing with my counselor today she mentioned she had other transgender clients and that I was the oldest of the group.  After thinking about what she said I wondered (and I hope those who read this can help) whether the younger generations (those in mid life and younger, or those my age) find it easier to express themselves publicly whether 24/7 or in public in different situations.  So, there’s my question at last.  Thanks.

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    • #80367
      Stephanie Horne
      Participant

      SILVER

      I am transitioning, but it took 62 years for me to move forward. I have been on HRT for 5 years and know how hard it is to move to full time since I work globally and culturally some of my clients will not accept my transition. I need the financial stability now, but will have to make a choice since i am scheduled to start my surgeries in 16 months. My Dr’s are incredibly busy, but the are wonderful and they take my insurance so almost everything is covered in full. It is not too late, but as with most of us I wish I was able to start sooner. I feel I have missed a lot of moments in my life that I wish I could have had, but as always hindsight is 20/20 and you can’t fix the past so here is looking forward to the future.

       

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    • #80365
      Kim Dahlenbergen
      Participant

      FREE

      Time and place have so much impact on the way we see ourselves and on the way we presume others will see us.   I’ve maintained the same stark division between my inner person and the person I allow loved ones to see.   As for those outside the inner circle, I’m less constrained, but seem to have divided my life into parts that never overlap.

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    • #80120
      Meran Berwyck
      Participant

      FREE

      I know it’s a difficult situation.  I just retired myself, but I have been out since 1996.  Furthermore, I never started HRT until 3.5 years ago myself!   I wished I had known what I discovered at that late time like 20 years prior.  I still say it’s never too late.  I think what you need is someone close to dress with, to go out with to do shopping and traveling together.  Get involved with other CDs and TGs, perhaps in a support group.  You’ll find yourself brave enough to step out with little encouragement.  What has helped me a lot was moving to a new location, a different city, even into a different state, where no one knows the real you and they get used to the ‘new’ you before knowing your past.  I realize that can be a difficult thing for many people but it’s an option.  Best of luck to you and your dreams.

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    • #62614
      Stephanie Jones
      Participant

      FREE

      I’m afraid my own experience was much like your own. Things take forever for things to change in any meaningful way.

      There was (and still is) downright hadred and mis-trust for those of a different orientation or identity.

      Those marks do not fade easily, do they?

      Stephanie xo

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