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When I first started exploring my woman hood I wasn’t scared or really nervous . I don’t let what someones point of view of me get under my skin , life is to short to waste it on negative energy . Learning to walk in heels was the hardest part for me . My sisters and girlfriends were a big help in doing my hair and make up and coming up with a style that was me . My own Dad was shocked on how I looked , I’m a spitting image of my sister Barb . He was proud which really enforced his support towards me . This was the greatest day of my life , being excepted for who I’m . This gave me high levels of confin and this is what I needed .
I still remember the day when I had my first appointment with the specialist , holy crap was his first words . I can say that I was getting tired on the amount of doctors and specialist I had see and the amount of needles which got grab in back . Spinal taps no longer bother me now . Work was wonderful , company I was working for was owned by a Woman and was welcomed with open arms . We did contract work for the Government . I was surprised on how many people actually had my back . I was asked a lot of questions , gave a lot off answers . After a year and half I got my surgery date and flight times . I was jumping around for days with excitement !!! My flight was an interesting one , at the security gate I ended up standing there for half an hour taking with the lady about my shoes leading to which are the best stores in the city . This ticked off a few people behind us , but I didn’t care . It was an important topic ! I must admit that I didn’t do well in the air . last time I was on a aircraft I was 9 .
While my stay at the recover house I meet some interest folks , made a few friends . Two from the same city which was nice actually . I didn’t know any one else who was going through this . Once back home we would meet for lunch or coffee and I started going to support groups with them . That didn’t last for very long and I was warned before hand by Joe ( not his real name ) that the group would have a hard time excepting me because I was more then passable and I had my surgery at the time . I didn’t believe him at all , he was right though and I stop going to them . There are just some questions I don’t like being asked and pushed to answer them .
After spending 3 months off work while recovering I was glad to be back to work . Tired the dating seen for awhile and didn’t want to be someones fetish so I became a home body . Had a job change and that is when life started to take a turn . I went through cancer which kick my ass for a year and half , but I fought back .
Work wasn’t going well for me , a few guys had an issue with me and I was asked to stop wearing my makeup and put my hair back . This was the first time I was ever asked by any one to do this , I would comply to it and was let go .
This was 8 months after my surgery and became a victim of sexual crime . I felt ashamed , dirty no matter how many times I showered it just wouldn’t go away . I couldn’t talk about I was embarresed to even mention it let along even admit to myself what happened . Ever time I looked in the mirror all I would see is disgrace and was getting very disguised with my self to the point I stop taking my hormones , stop doing my dilolations was just to painful . Didn’t do my hair and face same with my nails , ended up tossing all of my clothes sticking with bagging jeans and t-shirts . Wouldn’t even touch myself enless it was having a shower ,Lost my home and ending up staying a friends place and this when I started living the lie alll over again .
It has been a ruff 13 years fighting what I feel inside . I told no one who I was and ref my self a male . I have a lot of trust issues with males and really don’t want hem s friends . I’m slowly starting to change that , but it’s not easy .
But I’m really scared now over something that I never had issues with before . I love being out an about except for the winter time , don’t do well in cold climate . There is this deep fear of being a victim again even finding work is going to be a challenge . So right now I really don’t know where to start . My experience with support groups wasn’t a pleasant one . Who do really speak to about this is my current goal .
Thanks for letting me be a bit on the chat side
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