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Hi, only recently gained awareness that I am most probably trans. Just getting my head around it. Feeling disbelief, relief, excitement and a bit of dread! Dressing in almost exclusively female clothes, removed body hair, dislike and avoidance of my genitals etc. So many things from my past and present are starting to make sense in a way they never did before. I adore women and feel myself in female environments and company.
Thank you for expressing your feelings so magnificently.
I felt the same way you did.
But as the days, weeks go by, i am accepting my new found self more and more
Just wished I was younger, to enjoy everything I missed
Hugs and kisses phillysis
<p style=”text-align: left;”>Oh Phillysis, thank you so much for your kind words. This is the first time anyone apart from my partner knows about and has commented on my feelings. It feels both lovely and huge and so very very validating.</p>
Thank you again
With love, Vanessa xx
Thank you for your kind words.
I never thought I was trans, only enjoyed wearing women’s clothes
But after taking care of my mother for 17 years and then she passed away 3 years ago at 101 years young.
As the days passed, I hardly did anything but something was building up in me
Till phillysis finally emerged.
Then as phillysis began to enjoy the world, and began to dress and explore her femininity.
Phillysis has become stronger  as the days and weeks went by.
Phillysis has now taken over, and I feel more female than male
Relax and enjoy yourself.
Good luck in your transition
My best to you
Hugs and kisses phillysis
Hello Vanessa I’m also New to transitioning, but Love everything I’m Doing, Now I knew I was transgender, at the age of 6or7
But did not know what to do.
How that I’m much older, and have found TGH Site I hope to find a More Beautiful and Healthy Lifestyle.
And you Vanessa can do this too.
With the help of Everyone here at TGH SITE… So Be Safe….
And find your True Self… đź’•Thank you so much Jessica. Your words are so very encouraging. Am so glad I joined this forum, am already feeling a lot less alone 🙂
We are All here for you Vanessa. Just be True to your Self….and reach out to us. TGH is a truly Safe Site..take care of your self
Talk to you soon…đź’•Thank you again Jessica, I will. I had a panic attack last night for the first time in ages. Going to begin the process of finding a therapist today! Still trying to process all of this, how could I not know until now (whilst all the signs were there)!
It is so reassuring to read others experiences and understand that what I am experiencing, whilst uncommon, is perfectly normal. I am so glad I joined this forum. Respect and love to all those who have taken or are taking the path of transition x
Vanessa,
Thank you for sharing – I’m glad to hear that you’re finding ways to become more comfortable in your body.
I am a parent of a pre-teen boy who is starting to ask questions surrounding gender. He continues to identify as male, but is wondering what that means and if he is really a female. We have always had a close, open, communicative relationship and I am so happy that he trusts me enough to talk to me about the things he is thinking and feeling. But I just don’t have all the answers for him on this topic! I’ve told him that he is accepted and beautiful no matter who he is, but beyond that, I am not equipped right now to answer some of the questions he has.
I joined this forum to ask those questions and take some of the answers back to my son so that he can figure things out more easily.
Vanessa, I hear you talking about fashion choices (clothing, hair) as core to the reason you are finding comfort in transitioning. One of the things my son has asked me recently is, “What are boy clothes and what are girl clothes?” Obviously he knows how clothing is gendered on the racks at Macy’s or Target, etc. but he wants to know if those places have it “right.” My instinct was to tell him that those are false social constructs, that “boys clothes” and “girls clothes” are not real. He likes to wear yoga pants, pink colors, and also dislikes his newly growing body hair. I’ve always taught him that’s fine, there are no rules for boys. But now he is wondering if that means he is really female.
How did you arrive at the point in your journey where you realized that the clothing or fashion you felt comfortable in indicated your gender?
Hi Mara
Thank you so much for your kind words. You sound such an incredibly supportive parent and your son is very lucky.
Your question is a really good one and has made me think. At a young age I knew that certain colours, materials and activities were considered girls and that I wasn’t supposed to like them. In my teens I soon learnt that it could be dangerous to have a feminine look. Throughout my life I have always worn colourful and untypical make clothes.
I think the difference now is my realisation that I am liking certain clothes or colours because they are gendered female. You and your son are both right that clothes gendering are merely social constructs and many clothes can be androgynous. Often however I am aware that I feel more comfortable and at peace if I am wearing women’s clothing rather than mens, even if others are not aware that what I am wearing has been brought from the women’s section.
I hope this helps in some way.
With love
Vanessa x
Vanessa:
So good that you could join us!
What you describe is years of repression and that is something that MANY of us here are well acquainted with. Finding a therapist to work with will likely prove to be very helpful. However, it trick is to find one with experience in gender issues. There are lots of good therapists out there, but not everyone has this particular set of skills, interest and experiences.
Remember our minds work to protect us and minimize stress. From a laywoman’s point of view, your panic attack could be your mind’s reaction to a potentially great upheaval (realizing that your gender identity was what you thought and what that may mean for the rest of your life). A therapist can help to work through what’s going on and to help you understand what you need to do in the future.
You may search for other members who may be nearby by clicking on Social in the menu and then Member Directory.
Please complete your Profile page. Often it is the basis for members making suggestions or sharing information. Also, it can be updated at any time if something has changed for you.
Hi Vanessa,
Welcome to our wonderful, accepting, loving, helpful community where you can be safe and be yourself.
You can read about the knowledge and experiances of others on a similar path by reading articles and in the forums and chatting in chat rooms.
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