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I have a very good friend, who has been struggling for a long time it seems, I’ve only just found out that he is transgender. I am using he, because he still currently identifies himself as he, out of fear of ridicule. I am not looking for harsh comments to my posts, understand, I myself have a firm belief there are only 2 genders…period. That does not mean I dont support peoples right to do what makes them feel comfortable in his/her own skin. He says he wants to embrace this and no matter what he chooses, I want to be as supportive as I can, despite my own personal beliefs. He has been through many really tough breaks, and hates himself as a man. I want him comfortable in his own skin. I told him that I cannot go with calling im she/her, that I dont use “preferred pronouns”. Not really a fan on anyone trying to dicate my speech or tell me how to interpret reality. I dont mean to be disrespectful to anyone. It does not mean I dont validate someone’s existence, its just how I feel. He seemed to be fairly understanding. Despite my willingness to be supportive, I cannot begin to understand everything he is going through. And I try not to judge on things I don’t understand. Is there any actual objective advice that someone can offer me? I also want to help him find support groups, and some like minded people. He is conflicted on whether he would want to try and transition or sort it out as a man. I dont want people to try and throw politics into the mix, I dont want someone to lie to him and tell him that its easy, and its the best thing ever. I want someone who could talk to him objectively who has dealt with it and honestly advise him of risks and benefits. I truly do want whats best for him and want him comfortable in his own skin. Thank you for you time in reading this.
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