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Hi everyone! My name is Shona Ireland and I live in Tumbler Ridge in British Columbia. I am 73yrs old and started on my MTF trans gender journey when I was 70 and, it’s been quite a ride. I have been wanting bottom surgery all the way. It took over a year for them to start me on hormone therapy. And I was happy that at least I was progressing. I have had many heart problems, including heart attacks(5), open heart surgery as well as surgery for 3 triple “A” aneurysms. This has always been everyone’s concern. But I went through every hurdle thrown at me including a 2 day stress test on my heart to see if I would survive this surgery. Anyways, I passed all the tests and according to the heart specialist I was approved for the surgery which was to take place in Vancouver. I was in touch with the surgical nurse, the surgeon and the man that gives the that gives the gas to put you out. I talked to them through Zoom and by phone. Anyways, long story short, the gas man said that because of my heart problems that the mortality rate was a bit higher and wanted me aware of that. I said I was. He said he could do his part for the surgery and that he would give me gas. He would let the surgeon know. Anyways she called me and said that I would not survive the surgery and she wouldn’t go ahead with it.
I was totally devastated and could barely talk to her. She told me the gas doctor had given me a high mortality rating and she wouldn’t do it.
I didn’t know what to do. I did at that moment think of suicide. But, I am a really strong lady and that would only be a horrible last option. Anyways, after crying for three days I finally called my BFF girlfriend and asked if she could come over asap. She did, with flowers to cheer me up. She sat with me and we talked for hours. She knows I am not a quitter and encouraged me to go back to my doctor and have him chase down all involved and try to get me an answer that made sense after all the previous approvals.
She also brought up the fact that lots of women were in my position. Some of them by choice in this whole process and there was nothing wrong with being left a hermaphrodite. And, she pointed out that lots of women are born this way and live happy fulfilled lives. She really got me thinking. This wasn’t the end of my world.
She said being a woman is not what’s between your legs, It’s what’s between your ears and in your heart and soul. She told me you are obviously a woman. You look like a woman, act and walk like a woman, dress like a woman and she said ” I would die to have your legs!” She really made me feel good and I will keep trying. But, if I have no choice in the end, I will most likely carry on as I am.
Anyways, I just thought that maybe I should see what you gals have to say about it and how you feel about the process and your situations and the troubles you may share.
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