Transitioning and Immigation!

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    A LIFE-CHANGING EXPERIENCE
    03/06/2008 to 03/06/2022
    At this moment exactly 14 years ago I stepped off the flight of Emirates at Auckland International arrivals. Started my new life in many ways. Far away from my family. My sisters, my children, and those who knew me. What a ride it was. I had so many ups but also many downs. I have tears in my eyes thinking back. Tears thinking of those I thought I’d never see again maybe. Tears of a life gone by and the fears of the unknown awaiting me here in my new homeland. Everything was so new and strange. How was I going to fit in? How was I going to manage? Will this new land of Aotearoa- New Zealand accept me? Will I feel welcome? Many questions were driving me nuts. I managed it a day at a time and time taught me that whatever lies ahead I’ll be okay. Today reflecting back on the 14 years I see all the things that happened and what I have achieved. The many Kiwi friends and whanau I made have made me feel at home and welcomed. Above all, it taught me about humility and compassion, and love. Oka, I failed in keeping my marriage together and I missed my family so much and nearly became a suicide stats in NZ, but there was a hand reaching out that led me into the future. Many hands helped me put one foot in front of the other. The many hugs that told me I’ll be okay no matter what. In this new land, I found purpose but I also found who I truly am. I shed the old me and I shed the past and I learned and embraced the new me and my new life. I arrived as a male married, got divorced, and presumed happy but today I am a female, and no matter who says what, At last, I’m really happy and I have peace in myself and peace knowing I live my life to the fullest. I do what I enjoy most but most of all I am happy that I walk with God on my side every step of the way. The worries of 03/06/2008 are no more on 03/06/2022. The fears of the unknown were replaced by great memories of the past 14 years and before. No uncertainties and no doubts. No regrets whatsoever for getting on that Emirates plane at O R Tambo on 31/05/2008.
    I am at peace at last knowing I am in a wonderful peaceful country, my home, and my happy place. Thank you Aotearoa New Zealand for opening your doors to me and thank you for welcoming me with open arms on 03/06/2008. Thank you for allowing me to make this country my home away from home. Thank you for all the wonderful help to find the real me, the real identity hidden in a closet for so long. Thank you for the help in the destruction of the old walls of who everyone else presumed me to be, I will always treasure and appreciate that opportunity given to me. This is the old and the new me. This is me, I am who I am!! I am Catherine Anne Vos and I am female!! (She, her, hers)
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    • #131151
      DeeAnn Hopings
      AMBASSADOR

      Catherine:

      You wrote: I failed in keeping my marriage together

      To me, that isn’t a pass/fail kind of thing. Some marriages continue and some don’t. It comes down to whether or not the spouse can deal with a new reality. Some spouses would probably feel that things would have been much better had we stayed in the closet, but that takes a terrible toll on us. We should all be able to be who we are. To me, the analogy is a backed up drain pipe. Nothing good happens after that. It only gets worse until action is taken…

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        Thanks DeeAnn,

        the reason I wrote that is because my marriage started failing after our immigration. It failed for many reasons outside me being transgender. She never knew the real me existed until 4 dayse before she finally left. I purged all my stuff 4 times to try saving my marriage and it never helped. I came out to her 4 days before she left. Her stuff were already gone to her daughter’s by then so me being me was never a reason for the breakup. It did however seal the locks on the gates behind her. My happiest day ever!!

        take care and be safe!
        Catherine, xxx

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          DeeAnn Hopings
          AMBASSADOR

          There’s an old prize fighting phrase: “going the distance”. Some things, human relationships included, are not intended to go the distance. It’s just how it is and not much is going to change that. After 30 years of marriage my 1st wife and I divorced in 2003. However, DeeAnn didn’t appear until 11 years later. While there wasn’t anything really overt to point to, it is entirely possible that there may have been some undercurrents that were not recognized by me. However, I do think that in the end, what should have happened, did happen. The life that I am living now, with my 2nd wife, would never have happened with my 1st…

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      Michelle Lawson
      MANAGING AMBASSADOR

      Cat, I read that, and the entire time I’m just thinking of all the emotions that lead you up to not only getting on that plane, but even contemplating doing such a thing. We are talking about moving to another town, or even a state. We are talking about another country, on the other side of the planet. So yes, there was a strong Hand walking with you, and I suspect that Hand is still with you and will be for the rest of your life. Always watchful and guiding you to be the best woman you can be. Hugs, Michelle

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        Thank you Michelle. That was an arduous journey indeed. Failing marriage, loss of family members especially in July/August 2021 and the difficulties of the last 22 months with no job and no income. But, here I am. Still standing and smiling and knowing I had and always have the Upper hand walking with me all the way.

        Have a lovely day

        Catherine. 

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