One Day You’ll Wake Up

During my last voice therapy session, my therapist told me, “One day you’ll wake up and realize that you have lived as a woman just as long as you’ve lived as a man.” Today is not that day for me, but it called to mind all the “one days” that have already passed:

  • One day I will come out.
  • One day I will start hormone replacement therapy.
  • One day I will go full time.
  • One day I will complete gender reassignment surgery.
  • One day….

As time rolled past, all those “one days” turned to yesterdays. One of the scariest places on my transition journey was when I realized that all my “one days” were behind me. The planning and saving. The daring and heartache. The pain and emotional turmoil. All the tangible stones on the transgender pathway had been trod.

There was nothing to look toward with hope. No event in the future when I would finally be whole. There was only now. There was only life.

The epic drama that is the transgender journey had come to a close. All that remained was “happily ever after” and then the credits roll.

The hardest part is what you look forward to

If you had asked me before I stood at the end of my “one days” whether it was going to be great, I would have enthusiastically shouted, “Yes!” To discard my past as a snake sheds its skin and connect my physical body to my authentic soul stood as the peak of my Everest. Surely there can be nothing harder than summiting the highest mountain? Yet we forget that those who perish on the literal mountain journey rarely do so because they couldn’t make it to the top. The danger lies in whether you can navigate safely back down.

Once you have removed the largest obstacle, you can better see the caltrops strewn in the road of life. Dating. Marriage. The inability to conceive. Poems have been written and stories penned about any one of these. Compared with the daunting specter of gender dysphoria, they are merely pale shadows. In the light on the downward slope of the mountain, however, they loom large and ferocious.

Why we are here

Recently, we brought Transgender Heaven to life. A home for those walking their own transgender path. A place to discuss and examine each of the stones along the path. Hormone therapy, surgery, counseling, coming out and so on. Each one of these stones are worthy of the thoughtful discussion that can precede many a sleepless night.

We are also here for the time after that path has ended. When the “happily ever afters” aren’t so easily or joyously expected. When doubt and heartache and loneliness creep in. When the reality of being a woman in the workplace finally hits home. When what used to be effortless is a struggle. We are here when friends are needed most. Through the journey, and especially on the other side.

Welcome to the community! If you haven’t already done so, I encourage you to join Transgender Heaven by creating an account and getting involved. I look forward to seeing you around here!


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Jackie Wild

Darn you Vanessa you brought on a tear in my eye this morning. Wow how beautiful this article is. It will definitely hit home for many and warm they’re souls as well as help reinforce and assure people that there is light at the end of the tunnel and it’s not a train! Thank you for sharing this Vanessa, it’s warmth will continue to sooth some hearts throughout this new day, Jackie…..

Joanna Knight
Joanna Knight

The one thing I fear the most at this time is going out in the day time when people can see me and judge me! I do go out only at night when there ant so many people around to see and judge me! I haven’t even told my family about being Joanna they only know my meal side! What to do or not do ?
I do love being Joanna for she is part of me and I love her as my self! I wish I could be me all the time!

Cloe (CC) Webb

I admit I had to look up caltrops. People keep asking me about some of these such as dating and preferences, career, RL community. The over-thinker in me gets to churning, but then I chat with a friend or 10 and I’m brought back to a grounded state. Some things are improving and I’ve been blessed to enjoy some, others remain frightful places to go. But, I have to say I’m already enjoying a full rich life that I couldn’t have even dreamed in my wildest dream. Thank you Vanessa for sharing with us who you are through personal stories… Read more »

Tessa Cee

Thanks Vanessa for those heartfelt words. I look forward to sharing thoughts and insights on how we all move forward in the coming months and beyond.

<3 Tessa

April King

Very well put Vanessa. As always.


Damion Knight

This was an amazing article… You have no idea (but you do!) how much I needed to hear those words in this moment. Beautifully written, thank you! 🤗💞


A beautiful piece. Right now I am not even thinking about my distant future. All that matters to me now is what I am going to do about my situation tomorrow. The day I can say “you have lived as a woman just as long as you’ve lived as a man” would definitely be one of my fondest days of my life.

Thanks for the lovely article.

Dame Veronica Graunwolf

Another Gem for your crown Vanessa……….Hail to thee!

All my love…..


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