Stop feeling helpless

Feeling helpless is a disabling, self-defeating emotion

How do we get past that negative state of mind? It will only get worse unless you can think your way out of it or something or someone else can pull you out of it. As it is with any negative situation, you do not have to suffer more than you choose to, or consent to. You can empower yourself and take action against any negativity that enters your life. We all possess this ability and power and we’ve always had it at our disposal. We can overcome so much; heal and cure our biological self and change our patterns of thought. This ability is recognised and acknowledged within current science.  It postulates on how we have lost or been denied through society. Most likely as a deliberate way to keep the masses in the dark about the natural abilities we once had.

Becoming disengaged with some important things at our core being has not helped us individually in any way; in fact, they have brought about issues, problems and a sense of emptiness or lacking within many people.

Science is moving forward at an ever-increasing pace, research and understanding follow in its wake. Text translated from over 1,000 Sumerians tablets dating back some 6,000 years ago has provided a volume of text and information that is now better understood. It has thrown light onto the history of our planet in greater detail. How many things have been rewritten and changed to suit the rulers of the time? It has always been this way and why we have become disengaged with our true-selves in such profound ways. It’s no wonder that we feel helpless far too often. We are encouraged to give our consent to others for them to take care of our lives and our health. Why? Because we are no longer in a position to access the natural and spiritual self that keeps us grounded and connected with life and nature.

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Such disempowering and disengagement is what has brought us to the state of the world right now.

We have natural power and the ability to influence the outcome of anything we choose. By giving our attention a collective focus in the world we can make things happen in a good or bad way. We have been denied access to such a natural development, due to a lack of education or reference to these things. We are being distracted from these parts of ourselves by being occupied by the need to simply survive and exist and not notice what is happening around us!

The events of the past year have only reinforced that view by all that we’ve been subjected to that is unnatural and detrimental to humanity and the planet.

Take back control of your emotions

The first step in taking back control is to diminish the sense of helplessness by becoming aware of your emotions and beliefs, bring them into your conscious and unconscious thinking, give them your attention. Review and refine them to be in alignment with your true self and the direction you choose to take in life. While doing so, never leave out the feelings of gratitude and love for life; all the wonderful things that allow you to enjoy the great quality of life that you benefit from. Be alive each morning with a sense of whatever gives you the utmost joy and pleasure. Everything we think, say, or how we act can have an effect on what happens around us and to us. We need to be mindful of the words we use in thought and speech and how we channel them into our actions throughout our daily life.

Perhaps, I am asking a great deal from you to implement this into your life, but it is important to begin in even the slightest way. We learn to walk in small steps and continue to build from that first step onward. As we learn, we become more able, and when we become more able we can create in better ways. Planting a seed is the most important part of any growth in us, as it is in nature. We too are a part of nature.

Whatever we choose to focus our attention on is exactly what we invite and create within our lives. The more focused we can be with our thoughts, the greater influence they will be in our lives and the events associated with them. A simple way to look at it: if you chose to believe you will have a great day – keep that thought present in your mind, feel it emotionally, think of it as if you’ve already achieved it. Visualise yourself living in that moment – and truly ‘feeling’ it as if it were reality.

Feel It and Be It – shape your future within the moment!

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Born in London, England and a life long journey incorporating two marriages and a long relationship that eventually brought me to France. My two children and all of my family are fine with my choice to finally be the person I have always been. I am a creative, artistic soul who loves good food,cooking and real friends. Will I ever fall in love, will someone fall in love with me and does it matter? I have the love of my family and some very good friends in my life

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Carly Holloway
Carly Holloway(@carlyellen)
2 years ago

I am only as helpless as I believe myself to be. If helpless, I must find the power I gave away, and reclaim it as my own. As you say, dear Sophie, it is not always easy to find. I refuse to give away feelings. I can feel mad/sad/happy/good as I choose. No one else’s choice. I think and act for my reasons. That is more than good enough.

“Don’t dream it. Be it!”

Peace, love and hugs to all

Regina Love
Regina Love(@reginalve)
2 years ago


Thank you for your affirming and encouraging words. Hopefully I will be able to add some newer photos to my page soon. Still waiting to hear about the breast prosthetics and hormone replacement, but at least this step in the journey is taken.


Alexis Moon
Alexis Moon(@alexismoongirl)
2 years ago

Fantastic article! Thank you so much. As someone who has struggled with negative self-talk for most of life, this sort of thing is exactly what so many of us need to hear – I certainly could’ve used this as far back as my teenage years. I think it’s about defining ourselves, instead of letting the world define us. In other words, write your own story…

Regina Love
Regina Love(@reginalve)
2 years ago

I have been feeling very insecure for so long. I recently came out to my girlfriend and then to the VA facility I go to for my disability claims and doctor. Both were not only supportive, but life affirming and so fantastic at accepting me. Throughout my life I have had times I thought seriously about killing myself as so many seemed to be so unaccepting and judgmental I still face challenges and upheaval as I am likely to not only become divorced (yes, I am married and she not only does not know, but has indicated non-acceptance) and losing… Read more »

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