The problem is, Democrats are socialist. Democratic Socialism is still socialism. I like capitalism. So, so am Independent.
I can’t really support Republicans because, as you said, many of them use us as sacrificial fodder to promote their own careers, both profiting from hatred against us, and simultaneously promoting it.
So, I am a libertarian. I do often vote for Republicans, because there is no viable Independent, and Democrats have a lot of policies that they support that I strongly oppose. I used to be a member of Young Democrats, and worked on a lot of Democrat campaigns, but they have moved far left of me.
There is no Party that actually promotes what I believe the country needs, and Republicans and Democrats are jointly destroying everything. It is frustrating.