There are areas of this site that are specifically for transitioning and issues related to the physical and emotional aspects.
However, are you considering transitioning at the moment? I don’t get the impression that this is the case. Anyway, I am a bit confused as to your situation.
For the time being, if you are looking to crossdress, I recommend our sister site, crossdresserheaven.com. There is a specific area called Fashion, Beauty and Makeup that might be of help. The is also an area for Wives and Significant Others Only if you think that may useful for your wife. So, check out the other site and see what works for you. In any event, we’ll still be here!