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I suspect that there are many here who share you situation. In other words, how to make the best of things given certain constraints.
Many of the members here have enlisted the aid of a therapist. Obviously depression and irritability are not good spaces in which to dwell. A therapist may help you reach an understanding so that doesn’t happen, or at least minimize it. One point to remember that every therapist does not have experience in gender issues, so it is important to find one that does if you do go looking for one. If you decide to do that, Psychology Today magazine has a searchable database on its web site that lists therapists (with their bio information) from all over the US and the world.
It would be helpful if you complete your Profile page. It is a good way for others to get to know you better and understand your journey. All threads eventually sink to the bottom of the heap, but the Profile page will always be accessible and can be updated at any time as needed.
If you would like to search for others who may be nearby, click on Social in the menu and then Member Directory.