Wanting to carry a baby to term doesn’t make you less a male. Many men want children, and some like myself would love to be able to carry a baby to term. I am a transgender-woman, but I was a male for many years, and I always wanted a family. I only fantasized being the mother by birth. I don’t think I wasn’t a man; I did a lot of amazing man stuff. Of course, that is not the real basis of being a man: both being a man and being a woman is as much about attitude.
As I really believe in my female self, I am sure you believe in your male self. It is a total gift that you can become the man you want to be, and have a baby also. There are numerous questions you need to answer: Do you want to have a baby AND care for the baby for 20-plus years as the child’s father? (I think that is do able and GREAT!!)
How will you balance transition to male, and to what degree of transition following the birth of your child?
Prioritizing your life’s goals with the needs of the child is a complex task that sane people would take very seriously. Of course, 98% of all new parents aren’t sane, and just have babies!!
You can have both worlds…that is so totally cool!