Definitely agree with working with a therapist. However, do make a point of finding someone with experience with gender issues as everyone doesn’t have this.
You touched on the idea of change. Our minds will go to great lengths to avoid change. Further, change is scary because it is usually uncharted waters and that brings a lot of stress and anxiety. Our minds usually work to minimize stress and anxiety, therefore we avoid change. One of the helpful things that a therapist can do is keep you focused on the things that you need to think about. Ultimately this will help you figure out what you need to do.
So, 4 things:
Please complete your Profile page. It really does help others to get to know you and your journey. Eventually all threads sink to the bottom of the pile as new ones are continually added. On the other hand, your Profile page will always be readily accessible and you can update it at any time if something changes.
If you would like to search for other members in your area, click on Social in the menu and then Member Directory.
As you live in or near Sydney, do some searching for LGBT resources or specifically for transgender resources. Many LGBT organizations offer support services and therapy services.
The Psychology Today magazine maintains a searchable database of therapists all around the world. You can search for who does what in your area and it includes a description of expertise and interests.