Glad you decided to join us!
However, I have to tell you that there are no easy roads here. As Sheryl Crow said: “Every Day Is A Winding Road…”. That’s just how it is. While many of us have common threads in the course of our lives, there are also many differences for a vast number of reasons and it is very easy to come upon land mines.
However, weighing the pluses and minuses about coming out is a frequent dilemma here and there is no simple answer as many things have to be considered. While many here have had a better experience than they thought, there are no guarantees; only probabilities.
As you live in or near a major metropolitan area, I suspect that there may be some support groups that are in progress. That could be a very useful first step. Also, there should be therapists in the area who are experienced in gender issues. The idea is to figure out where things really sit for you and begin to plot a course forward. This is not the work of a minute. Think of it more as a journey rather than a sprint.
It is helpful if you can complete your Profile page. It assists other members in understanding your situation, your plans, etc. It can be updated at any time if something changes for you.
If you would like to search for other members in your area, click on Social in the menu and then Member Directory.