Hi Abby. I can relate to you situation. For 19 years I had a wife who knew and understood and participated in my being Elayne . I lost her to cancer in 1999. From 1999 to 2012 I lived alone dressed and had my femme time. My two daughters never knew and still don’t know . I was living in Reno NV then alone in an apartment. I actually tried to transition but had a bad reaction to the HRT. and had to stop. Im 2012 I was in a violent car crash . 8 moths of rehab. during that time I met a wonderful woman who helped me with my rehab. Moved in with my and we married in 2016. She does not know. and I wont tell her because of the exact same thing your having a problem with. .
The stats are against you. Sad to say but true. Of all the CD. TV s i have knows very very few who tell their wives have a successful relation ship afterwards. Women are challenged by other women in their lives and more so when the woman is the man they love. They go through What did I do wrong to cause this or can’t O h my GOD why Me . among other things. Embarasment of being out in public with you HUSBAND !! who is now a WOMAN !! While we have progressed in the LBGT Community it still Stigma TO MANY who believe in traditional man and wife. If you fell that your a complete woman then my suggestion is to end things. Dont try to change things in you wife’s eyes .. because you can’t!! The other option is to compromise . When you can dress, where you can dress, . Being a man when you are with her and other times the woman that is inside you . You may not be able to live like that but that may be how you have to do it. . Gender ident Council ing may be able to assist you also but it cost money to do so. You made a decision to marry her being a MAN . that agreement is broker because their is another women in you relationship YOU. You are behind the 8 ball and between a rock and a hard place. But you will have to make a decision… Come to a compromise or move on with out her.. Sorry but that is the harsh reality of the situation. Wish you good luck