Hi Brie, Time to catch up with each other a bit. My wife and I, like you and yours, have separated, as of June 1st of this year I have been living 100% full time as a trans woman named Lauren. For those who don’t know my story, my birth name is actually Lauren, and that caused me a lot of grief during my school years, to the point where I asked the school office to simply change the spelling to Lorne when I ended up in girls PE and home room. (The home room would have been very nice, but I know the PE class would have been problematic, LOL)
So there isn’t a dramatic pronunciation difference between the two, my wife is actually making sure she’s calling me Lauren, but other older connections still refer to me by the other dead name.
Brie, I completely hear what you’re saying about things being too raw at this point. She says she doesn’t want a divorce and we keep in touch and talk with each other on a daily basis, but even though she sees all my photos on my Facebook page and knows what I look like as a trans woman, she still doesn’t want to physically see me face to face. We will remain good friends, but, at this point in time, from a distance.
Hugs,
Ms. Lauren M