Hello Seren. I was married to the current wife for 23 years. She never knew I was dressing. I have been trying to take my wife with me for 3 years and she has finally accepted that I am not going backwards to stop my transition and so the result is that we are going through a divorce now. We will continue to be friends, although it will not be right away that we start clothes shopping and such together.
Concerning your question about gender dysphoria increasing, I think you should look on YouTube for Dr. Z, PHD. She is a clinical therapist in California and she address this along with many other trans issues. All of her patients are trans.