I was recently Christmas shopping dressed in jeans, calf high boots( moderate heel though) cowl neck sweater and very feminine a-line coat. And though I’m not great at makeup and don’t think I really pass AT ALL I didn’t hear any comments or notice anyone staring. Ulta was packed with women that either didn’t notice or didn’t care. The only person I really interacted with was at check out and she treated me like just one of the girls. I suppose having below shoulder length hair helps the look too.
I think life is so busy these days most people don’t have time to give a crap.