We are happy to have you with us. Many here have been where you are now in your journey. They are not easy waters to navigate, but it is entirely possible to do so. Many members have found that working with a therapist experienced in gender issues to be very helpful. The idea is to help you understand your own truths.
As you are in San Diego, have you contacted The Center https://thecentersd.org ? Within that organization is a program called Project TRANS. There may be some resources available to assist you.
Please complete your Profile page. It really helps other members to become acquainted with you, where you are in your journey and how they can help. The page can also be updated at any time if something changes for you.
You can also search for other members in your area by clicking on Social in the menu and then Member Directory.