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I am posting to get your views on how you have been served by shop staff when buying women’s clothing.
Whilst I have not (yet?) experienced open hostility from anyone; I have been scowled at, served with what feels like reluctance and sucking of teeth. This has happened in both stores and charity / welfare shops. Sometimes it’s other customers that show their disapproval. In my early days of shopping, a teen age sales assistant informed me that “men shouldn’t buy women’s clothing”. It was a skirt and girly socks I had been buying then.
There is one rather fierce woman who volunteers in my favourite charity shops who, when I was buying a long skirt, unfolded it and asked “you do realise this is a skirt don’t you SIR?”.
I replied “yes thanks, I tried it one and it fits just fine”; smiled at her and paid for it. I noted her gritted teeth and look of venom as I walked out. (I don’t count this as hostility).
On the other hand, I have been treated just like a fellow woman in a few stores. I visited a boutique that was closing down and at first got the customary question “are you all right sir” but then the three lovely mature ladies caught sight of my heeled boots and sparkle on my trousers and their attitude changed. They helped me pick out a skirt and hosiery to go with it. We chatted and they called me “lovey” and “Sweetie” which I thought was really nice.
Most older women are very accepting and some younger ones too; especially the more perceptive ones who quickly realise I don’t identify as male. I always prefer to be served by women although even in Asda /Walmart, none of the male checkout people bat an eyelid when I’ve bought bras, tights or even stockings.
I would love to hear your experiences of shopping, good and bad.
Love and hugs from Melanie xxx
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