How do you communicate with people you want to date or be friend?
I assume there is an initial connection then a long term one. Focus on the initial but elaborate on the long term if you want.
- Face to face chat
- Phone call
- Instant Messaging (IM)
- Text messages
- Video calls
- Other (Please explain)
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Hello ladies and gentlemen I found this old blog post I made like a 100 years ago. It does not really pertain to TGH but it might too those of you who haunt the online dating world. I will just post it as it sat, so please do not be to critical as I was a different back then.
How to Mail People
Unfortunately I have been fooling around on Transgendered dating web sites for some time. More then likely because my wants are more for a friend than a date. Most friend sites I have found get worse odds then a date one. Either way I have found lots of people using the sites have no clue how to write decent mails to others. Maybe I am old school but I love receive mails 10 times better then a text message. I am no expert writer like Stephen King.
Let us take a trip you and I through the writing of good mail.
Rule number 1, be truthful but not stupid. If you have only one testicle or something weird no need to say it right away unless you can spin it in a good light. BTW beats me how to swing that one. But If you are 67 year young, but pretending to be a 22 year old GET OFF THE SITE people are here to actually meet not waste their time on you. Now if all you want is a cyber role-play let people know, many of us do not want that but some do and can do it very well, and it is even better if you both pick roles to do and such. Actually let people know in your profile of what you are looking for this will curb some of those stray dogs.
Guys you can be:
Girls you can be:
Guys you can’t be:
Girls you can’t be:
#3 Connect with the other person. It is good to use stories or specific events. Do not be vague or general, you want to connect with a human not a group of people. Make sure you relate to what the other person has said in their profile and previous mails. USE THEIR NAME.
#4 Never beg or sound like a know it all. You will never look good to another if you do
#5 One liners have a 80-90% chance to get the instant delete. Spend the time and do it right. You can look like Cindy Crawford but if you mail says you have the brain of a bat the connection wont lead to much more then maybe a quickly. If you are average looking you wont even get that.
#6 Where is it all leading. Remember you have a goal in mind here and so do they. In one of your many mails, closer to the early ones, let the other person know.
#7 Go fishing. Fishing is about using the right bait and then hooking the fish. If you are too strong it will get away. If you use cat poo on the hook the fish will never come and bite. So reel them in, also remember some times when you finally see the fish it is not what you want, be kind and release it gently back into the water.
Hmm…. Maybe I will delete this posting if I reread it one day and find I was all wrong.
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Hello Changing, I wish it weren’t so that people delete the one liners, but it is. In the real world when you meet I think a one liner works because you have non verbal communication. In fact most of what you say is non verbal. Online only those little pesky emotion icons fill in the void, and they fall very short of the mark. Also it is very easy to hit a impersonal delete button but when a live person is standing there it can be hard to dis them. These being my guesses of course. Now am I saying write a whole essay page of text to wow someone in the 1st mail? Not really as that kind of thing boars most people, there are a rare few it wont (BTW I am not one of them). The trick is to have it just right to make that good impression. Not too much or too little.
Hey let’s talk gorgeous.
(DELETE in my book, unless that thumbnail is awesome.)
I was looking at profiles today and yours popped up. I really liked the fact you enjoy erotic attire. I have a huge closet my self and hate to admit it am a bit of an exhibitionist.
Also I wont lie, I love the way you look, just my kind of woman.
If you want mail me back and we can see where it might lead
(This is slightly better but you can see the point.)
It wont get a 100% but at least a 50% and that is much better then example #1.
Just some things to chew on.
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