Hello, I’m Antonia

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    Antonia Carter

    Hey all I’m a 40 year old trans woman at the beginning of my journey (I started late lol) I still present as Male but I am currently coming out to family and friends, (a cpl people know already but plucking up the courage to come out publicly) I’m on here to try and get advice, support and to generally get to know fellow gurls going through the same thing as me, Antonia x

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    • #102099


      Congrats on taking the steps to become the real you!

      Similar to you, I am 38 almost 39 but at the very infancy of accepting me for me as a woman and Trans and figuring out what that means.  I haven’t come out to anyone and haven’t gone to therapy yet, but am brainstorming on my “coming out” letter…not sure if it will take the shape of questioning or “I am trans,” which is how I feel.

      I have the added stressors/joys of a family with 3 kids.  If it weren’t for them I think I would have come out years ago.

      Anyway, I am and the other girls are always here for support, I know I need it.



    • #101666
      Terri Anne

      Hi Antonia,
      Welcome to our wonderful, accepting, loving, helpful community where you can be safe and yourself.
      My hope is that you will become comfortable here and make many new friends.
      Feel free to ask questions and we certanly love to hear your experiances and life’s knowledge as well.
      Enjoy the knowledge and experiances of others on a similar path by reading articles and in the forums and chatting in chat rooms.
      Terri Anne

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        Thank you Terri it’s nice to be part of a community that is going through a similar journey to me, I suppressed my thoughts and feelings for years but have accepted things now and although it’s still scary at times it’s nice to know I’m not the only one going through this change x

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      DeeAnn Hopings


      Glad you’re here! I hope it will be a good experience for you.

      Rest assured that probably most here have been where you are now or are living the experience as we speak. It is a hurdle that we have to figure out how to negotiate. Searching for other members near you from the Member Directory and resources in Local Places will be helpful. I suspect that a number of members never realize resources that may be close at hand because they have never been in a situation where it was needed. Many times people begin their posts with “I need to transition, but I don’t know where to start.”. Basically my point is that I don’t think many of us start with knowing what to do or what should happen next.

      By the way, are you working with a therapist? Many here have found that it is very helpful, however the trick is to find someone experienced in gender issues. While there are many good therapists out there, not everyone has the experience and interest.

      Thanks for being quite thorough with your Profile page. It is quite an important thing to do. Eventually due to other threads being posted, this one (and MANY others) will eventually wind up at the bottom of the heap. To the contrary, the Profile page will always be available to give others a sense of where you are in your journey and what you are dealing with. Also, it can be updated at any time if something changes for you. As a matter of fact I just updated mine yesterday as I’ve been meaning to add my latest volunteer project.

      Be Well and Welcome!

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      • #100831

        Hi DeeAnn thank you for all the info, no i havent got a therapist at the moment, I’ve been to my gp and I have been referred to a gender specialist, unfortunately on the NHS in the UK there is a 2 year waiting list to see said specialist so its saving the Penny’s and trying to go private for that part I think x

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        • #100871
          DeeAnn Hopings

          My wife is on a couple of international forums for spinal cord injury patients and she is in communication with a number of folks from the UK. She’s told me some of the horror stories from people who sought help from the National Health Service. If I read it correctly, it seems to be a bad intersection of understaffed and underfunded. Is that your perception?

          • #100878

            The NHS over here is a funny thing, in a lot of ways it’s fantastic and there is a lot of treatments available on there which would otherwise cost a fortune, including srs and hormone treatment, however it can get bogged down at times and when that’s the case you can be waiting a long time for treatment if it’s not considered an essential treatment, unfortunately gender reassignment isn’t considered essential so the waiting times are crazy, I am on the waiting list (2yrs) but i am considering going private but that will depend on finances etc.


    • #100781
      Michelle Larsen

      Antonia, welcome to our neck of the world. I do hope you are getting situated and seeing all there is here. Please let me know if you have any questions. Either I, or someone else, will make sure we reply back. I do so hope you will join us in the Chatroom. I enjoy chatting there a lot. If you look in Social -> Member Directory, you can search for other people that may be near by. Or under Places -> Local Places, you can search for all sorts of things that may be near you. Hope to see you chatting soon. Oh, and don’t forget about digging through the Articles and Forums. Loads of information there. Hugs, Michelle

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        Thank you for the info Michelle, there is a lot to explore on this site, hopefully I settle in properly once ive had a good look round x

    • #100775

      Welcome Antonia 👋 and congrats on your first steps on your new path.
      I’m pretty new to this too, and also a later developer 😀

      hope you’re having a stress free Tuesday

      Seren x

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        Hi Seren thank you for the welcome, its comforting to know I’m not the only one who discovered themself later in life, I always knew since childhood I wanted to be female but tried to accept that I was born male, however I’m now at the point where I need to be myself for the sake of my own mental health, thanks again for the reply and hope the rest of the community is as friendly and welcoming 🙂 x

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