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Hi. One longtime strugler in life here again. I am Lilja from Iceland and i have been in long hard fight with my self to be my inner person. It have been wery mutch downs for me but somhow i am still here.
Thank you for that Stephanie. I was here some time ago but i culd not feel i passed in. But i have to see.
I am a crossdresser considering transition after my last daughter finished postsecondary in June so I can leave a loveless marriage and bectgecwonan I was meant to be – feel free to chat with me on anything, for example, I help gurls go in public for the first time around Toronto, Ontario, Canada – how receptive is Iceland to LGBTQ?🌈💃🍽️☕🍷🍾🍹👠
<p style=”text-align: left;”>I hope your jurnay will go well and you will be able to be who you realy are. 🙏🙏</p>
Thank you for that. I maby do that somday. I am trying to build me up after falling deep in to the black hole.Hugs.
Thank you for that Barb.
I hope things are going well for you.
Big hugs to you. 🙏🙏
Lilja,
Welcome to TGH, You have come to the right place. We are all on a journey of discovery. Here you will find friends and hopefully the support and encouragement. Please stay a while and enjoy the friendships.
Peace and Love,
Shiloh Rose 🌹
Hi Shiloh Rose thank you for that. I hope i will find me place in here this time.
I hope all are doing well in your jurney. 🙏🙏🙏
Lilja:
Happy that you could join us!
What you said about finally moving toward being your true self after much difficulty is also true for many members here. Some journeys are relatively smooth, but some can be quite difficult. It is just how it is. However, there is an old saying: “What doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger.”. The important thing is that you continue to move forward.
Is there an LGBT community in your area? Being among ones peers is always important. I hope that you get to experience that!
Hi DeeAnn. Thank you for that.
I was here few years ago but didint find i passed so i left.
I decied to rejoin again in my lonlyness and try to get back from the abyss but sadly my name seems to be not popular so most of my time in the chat i was ignored but luckly few members chated to me. So i have stayed out of there so i would not be in the way from others and disturb the chat.
I have been strugling hard to be who i am but falled deep in darkness and have failed 3 times to end my fight.
It is LGBT comunity in Reykjavik but it somhow look down on Transpeople.
Big hugs to you and best wishes.
Lilja:
Passing is always a major topic of discussion in the community. Ultimately, all of us have to make peace with where ever we fall on that spectrum. Clearly, some will pass, some will not and some will fall somewhere in between. It is a difficult point for some because of the expectations that we hold, but we have to remember that all who are Assigned Female At Birth (AFAB) are not necessarily beautiful or feminine appearing. Unfortunately we often tend to ignore this fact.
Also, we have to remember that the degree to which we may, or may not pass, has nothing to do with the reality that we are transgender. I think that is a hard thing for many to understand, but it is the truth. Sadly, we humans spend a lot of time being unhappy over things that we cannot change or control. How many times have we wished that we had not made a decision that turned out badly? We wished that we had done something different, but the reality is that unless we become proficient in Time Travel, we can’t change that decision. The only thing that we can do is analyze it, figure out what went wrong and incorporate that information into future decisions. Dwelling on things that we cannot change is simply a waste of time and energy, but it something that we humans do all the time.
I have never really understood why a number of lesbians and gay men have difficulty with the trans community. You would think that those from marginalized communities would have some sensitivity for other marginalized communities, but for many that is not the case. On the forum and others, trans people have been surprised by the resistance and lack of understanding from lesbians and gay men. So far, I can’t think of any possible reasons why this is true. Anyway, I do understand what you said and the same problem exists here in the US in many places.
I’m a great one for remembering quotes and lines from songs and movies. One that comes to mind is from a song by Des’ree. I believe she is from the UK.
”Time’s much to short to be livin’ somebody else’s life.”
Words to live by…
Hi DeeAnn.
<p style=”text-align: left;”>Well yes facing the life as who i am are hard and difficuld. Even being in the chat here can be difficuld. I dont know if it is me as person, my name, my look or even that i am not from english speaking contry makes it so difficuld to be there.</p>
Its so strange how gay and lesbians look down at Transgender people. Thay of all people shuld kmow the fight for being who thay realy are.Big hugs to you. 🙏
Hi Lilja,
You know you are always welcome here hon. You are part of our family even if it sometimes doesn’t feel like it. You know where to find me when you’re stuck. I have been extremely busy with studies these last few months but I do pop in every now and then.
You are a great and lovely woman and I really miss our chats.
I have just over a month and a half left then my studies are done for this year.
I want you to start believing in yourself. When you do that, you’ll see things will start falling into place around you slowly. Patience and taking it one day at a time will help a lot as it did for you.
Remember all of us were in your situation at some stage of our journeys some a bit lesser and some a bit worse but through believing in ourselves we all get out to the other end eventually.
Please remain part and most of all, reach out when you need help sweetie.Love and hugs
Catherine A Vos- <li style=”text-align: left;”>Hi Miss Catherine Anne Vos.
- Thank you for that. Well i so hope others have not found in the chat thay are ignored by some persons and feel like that thay are not wanted to the chat. Its terrible feeling and just kick me back to the abyss there i have been trying to climb from. 😢
- I belive in my self and my jurnay but somhow when chating with somone live as in the chat gives me that feeling i am not on my on and are part of comunity there i belong in.
- Chating with messeges are not as same but is ok.
- Big big hugs to you. 🙏🙏🙏
<li style=”text-align: left;”>Its so good to know that you have been working with your studies and i hope them are going well. 🙏🙏💖
Thank you for that Rachel. I feel the same about you and if you was not here i probleby haved left the site. I sadly cant see that i belong in here. So many draw them back out of the chat when i write in. 😢😢😢
Hi Barb. Thank you for that. I am not sure i will log back in the chat again. Being ignored both from some members and from some of the staff have not been plesured to find. I think i made mistake when i rejoin in here and thougt i would find some friends to chat with so i dont feel as lonly.
Thank you so mutch for cear and i wish you all the best.
Love Lilja. 🙏💖
Scuuueeeezee and big hugs to you to.
I hope things are going well for you and you feel well. 🙏
I miss talking with you in the chat. I so loved that.
I have been trying to find that out why i am so hated in this and the others sites chat but i cant see the reson for it.
Big hugs and love to you my dearest friend. 💖
Hi Ms. Catherine
Well its the only thing i can find out about why i am ignored from some of members and staff. Being like a gosth in chat must meen that i am not wanted there.
I wish you all the best and know that you will master this like other things yo do. 💪🙏
Big hugs and thanks
Hi sweetie,
No one hates you. It just happens that we sometimes feel that way. Different convos going sometimes do happen and we get ignored but that’s not intentional, I can promise you that.
Thanks for the wishes.
I am going to bed early tonight.
I’m just overly tired tonight.
You take care and be safe,
Love and hugs
Catherine.
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