Would you magically trade your sex identity with a cis person, if you had the option?
Justify your choice in the comments!
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This is just an interesting hypothetical. Trans people don’t deserve to have the wrong body anymore than cis people do. It’s hard to give someone else a plight that they didn’t ask for, but at the same time you didn’t deserve being born in the wrong body. You could have the ideal body you feel you should have been born with. Maybe you can’t justify it morally, but it’s still a tempting offer. Do you do it?
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My knee jerk reaction was YES! EMPHATICALLY! INSTANTLY! but then I stop to think and I must change my answer to no.
Justify it says.
1) in my experience it seems many cis-women (note many, not all) do not deeply appreciate their feminity or the awesome power they wield when they properly work their feminity. Is it just me, or do we trans-women truly appreciate our womanhood in a way cis woman don’t or perhaps csn’t? To just switch sexes with a cis woman and find my womanhood a mediocre thing at best is not a mediocrity that I am willing or desire to embrace.
2) at times I have thought, “why couldn’t I have been born as one of my sister’s?” (I have three) Then I step back and look at their lives. Would I want to be were they are today in their lives? No. But had I been born a girl in our family, reared by the same mom they were, the possibilities are very strong I would be just like them. My love of womanhood is because I am trans. Had I been nurtured in the same environment as my sisters that love of womanhood would be so missing. I like the woman I am as I am.
3) Have you ever noticed how many cis women are not nearly as happy with their womanhood as we fantasize what being a woman would be like. I’ve noticed a lot of wearied, pained, discontented, less-than-truly-happy cis women. Because I am just your average person, if I were cis what makes me think I wouldn’t be like the average cis woman I know. I probably wouldn’t be any different as I navigate the routine of life.
No, I am OK with being a trans woman. I truly value the perspective of womanhood that I have been given. Should I ever finally make the choice to live my womanhood full time I will be able to take this perspective, developed over the years of deciding what kind of woman I would be, into my transition. With that solid foundation I would then become the woman, estatic to finally embrace full time womanhood. that I have always known myself to be.
Magically changing sex may the easy way, but I have found in life that anything worth having is worth working hard for.
Blessings.
Charrie
The title should have been Gender Identity and not Sex Identity…
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After reading your post a second and third time. I love this question. It sent me into a whirlwind of thought. I read the responses and I learned the pain, the self shaming, the anxiety of just not knowing what is wrong with us. We would not want any one to suffer as much as we did.and still do in my case. I am so happy I belong to a group of people who’s morality comes first. Now having said that if I could wake up one morning and have the body I am suppose to have or should I say want to have and it came from a cis woman who woke up with my body and she knew she was a woman before she went to sleep. My concearn is she would figure out what happened and would track me down and toture me for the rest of my pretty, cute and gorgeous new life. But I know I could help her understand what a gift I gave her. The possibilities are endless . I love this ❤️ question it got me through the day thank you Luv Stephanie
From my current position, being a transgender female I would love to have been born a female and I would change places with a cis female if no harm to someone else. The problem with this scenario is that I wouldn’t know this if I wasn’t transgender. I love who I am and I’ll make the best of this fulfilling experience. I’m special and if I was born female I would still have to work to be special. And the things you learn about being female are priceless, owe to the wonderful beauty of the feminine. I’m obsessed what can I say. Much love .
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I think the best option would be if some of us trans women could do a trade with trans men. Win/Win for everyone.
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I love the idea of trading with a transman. The perfect scenerio. Two people becoming whole as you said it’s a win win luv Stephanie ❤️
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Hello, not sure if I read the question correctly so I reread it a few times. If you mean would I change places with a cis person be it male or female, and they would assume my transgender gender. The answer is a flat no. I would not wish it on my enemy and certainly not an innocent or loved one.😔
If you mean by the question that I could magically be a cis male or female from birth and no one else gets harmed. Then absolutely sign me up. But at present I would prefer female, please. 😉
However the question does not actually ask about gender it seems to ask about sex. Almost as if it was the asker was trading sex for ??? Sex? I do this with my spouse but not anyone else. And trading sexual preferences I would not as it really does not bother me. However I am sure I am just being an word lawyer so refer to my other two answers. 😉
Miriya
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Awww..that was my favorite part.
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Assuming this CIS person was enlightened and willing to take on life changing adventures I would have said yes in the past. Desperately I would have.
But an emphatic NO is my answer.
Now that I’m living full time as my true self and going through my own adventure and some serious trials one might think even more so a yes answer would be better. Maybe I’ve picked up that need for the challenge of a lifetime to go along with the simple/complex overwhelming need to be me. Like many who have undertaken harrowing challenges like climbing Mt Everest, there are those who encourage me. Yet there are many more who look at me with the eye of “go ahead, I’m not participating in this train wreck” and simply walk away for myriad reasons. There are even the few who aggressively insist I live life their way – no more.
Living life on my terms with free will, no longer caged by fear, yet still having so much to learn about myself.1 user thanked author for this post.
I Know this choice is selfish of me. But how do we know that the CIS female isn’t in reality a transgender male? As an addendum to my answer I would swap with a transgender male. While I know that is not the question, the reality of my answer under the influence of sleeping medications is not humane. So I would search out a transgender male and come to an agreement. I am sure he wants this as badly as I do.
Danielle 💋👠👗
Given the right circumstances I would in a heartbeat 💗! Those circumstances would be never meeting my wife❤️💕💕!
Danielle 💋👠👗
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Wow! This didn’t even sound right! I sound like a lunatic and unhappily married which couldn’t be further from the truth. Well at least the unhappily married part. As I remark a bit further up in the post I would search out a transgender male and arrange a swap so we both get what we would want. The catch or reason I would not do this would be I love my wife too much to lose her so this is not an option for me but very intriguing question.
Danielle 💋👠👗
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