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This is just an interesting hypothetical. Trans people don’t deserve to have the wrong body anymore than cis people do. It’s hard to give someone else a plight that they didn’t ask for, but at the same time you didn’t deserve being born in the wrong body. You could have the ideal body you feel you should have been born with. Maybe you can’t justify it morally, but it’s still a tempting offer. Do you do it?
Given the right circumstances I would in a heartbeat π! Those circumstances would be never meeting my wifeβ€οΈππ!
Danielle ππ π
Wow! This didnβt even sound right! I sound like a lunatic and unhappily married which couldnβt be further from the truth. Well at least the unhappily married part. As I remark a bit further up in the post I would search out a transgender male and arrange a swap so we both get what we would want. The catch or reason I would not do this would be I love my wife too much to lose her so this is not an option for me but very intriguing question.
Danielle ππ π
I would never impose the agony, pain and a life of confusion on any one. No one deserves it.Β Luv Stephanie
I Know this choice is selfish of me. But how do we know that the CIS female isnβt in reality a transgender male? As an addendum to my answer I would swap with a transgender male. While I know that is not the question, the reality of my answer under the influence of sleeping medications is not humane. So I would search out a transgender male and come to an agreement. I am sure he wants this as badly as I do.
Danielle ππ π
Assuming this CIS person was enlightened and willing to take on life changing adventures I would have said yes in the past.Β Desperately I would have.
But an emphatic NO is my answer.
Now that I’m living full time as my true self and going through my own adventure and some serious trials one might think even more so a yes answer would be better.Β Maybe I’ve picked up that need for the challenge of a lifetime to go along with the simple/complex overwhelming need to be me.Β Like many who have undertaken harrowing challenges like climbing Mt Everest, there are those who encourage me.Β Yet there are many more who look at me with the eye of “go ahead, I’m not participating in this train wreck” and simply walk away for myriad reasons.Β There are even the few who aggressively insist I live life their way – no more.
Living life on my terms with free will, no longer caged by fear, yet still having so much to learn about myself.
Hello, not sure if I read the question correctly so I reread it a few times. If you mean would I change places with a cis person be it male or female, and they would assume my transgender gender. Β The answer is a flat no. Β I would not wish it on my enemy and certainly not an innocent or loved one.π
If you mean by the question that I could magically be a cis male or female from birth and no one else gets harmed. Then absolutely sign me up. Β But at present I would prefer female, please. π
However the question does not actually ask about gender it seems to ask about sex. Β Almost as if it was the asker was trading sex for ??? Sex? Β I do this with my spouse but not anyone else. And trading sexual preferences I would not as it really does not bother me. Β However I am sure I am just being an word lawyer so refer to my other two answers. Β π
Miriya
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I think the best option would be if some of us trans women could do a trade with trans men. Win/Win for everyone.
From my current position, being a transgender female I would love to have been born a female and I would change places with a cis female if no harm to someone else. The problem with this scenario is that I wouldn’t know this if I wasn’t transgender. I love who I am and I’ll make the best of this fulfilling experience. I’m special and if I was born female I would still have to work to be special. And the things you learn about being female are priceless, owe to the wonderful beauty of the feminine. I’m obsessed what can I say. Much love .
After reading your post a second and third time. I love this question. It sent me into a whirlwind of thought. I read the responses and I learned the pain, the self shaming, the anxiety of justΒ Β not knowing what is wrong with us. We would not want any one to suffer as much as we did.and still do in my case. I am so happy I belong to a group of people who’s morality comes first. Now having said that if I could wake up one morning and have the body I am suppose to have or should I say want to have and it came from a cis woman who woke up with my body and she knew she was a woman before she went to sleep. My concearn is she would figure out what happened and would track me down and toture me for the rest of my pretty, cute and gorgeous new life. But I know I could help her understand what a gift I gave her. The possibilities are endless . I love this β€οΈ question it got me through the day thank you Luv Stephanie
My knee jerk reaction was YES! EMPHATICALLY! INSTANTLY! but then I stop to think and I must change my answer to no.
Justify it says.
1) in my experience it seems many cis-women (note many, not all) do not deeply appreciate their feminity or the awesome power they wield when they properly work their feminity. Is it just me, or do we trans-women truly appreciate our womanhood in a way cis woman don’t or perhaps csn’t? To just switch sexes with a cis woman and find my womanhood a mediocre thing at best is not a mediocrity that I am willing or desire to embrace.
2) at times I have thought, “why couldn’t I have been born as one of my sister’s?” (I have three) Then I step back and look at their lives. Would I want to be were they are today in their lives? No. But had I been born a girl in our family, reared by the same mom they were, the possibilities are very strong I would be just like them. My love of womanhood is because I am trans. Had I been nurtured in the same environment as my sisters that love of womanhood would be so missing. I like the woman I am as I am.
3) Have you ever noticed how many cis women are not nearly as happy with their womanhood as we fantasize what being a woman would be like. I’ve noticed a lot of wearied, pained, discontented, less-than-truly-happy cis women. Because I am just your average person, if I were cis what makes me think I wouldn’t be like the average cis woman I know. I probably wouldn’t be any different as I navigate the routine of life.
No, I am OK with being a trans woman. I truly value the perspective of womanhood that I have been given. Should I ever finally make the choice to live my womanhood full time I will be able to take this perspective, developed over the years of deciding what kind of woman I would be, into my transition. With that solid foundation I would then become the woman, estatic to finally embrace full time womanhood. that I have always known myself to be.
Magically changing sex may the easy way, but I have found in life that anything worth having is worth working hard for.
Blessings.
Charrie
If you mean to ask whether I would trade identity with another person who also wanted to change theirs to mine…in a NY minute!!!Β As I am older, the transition is more difficult physically and emotionally exhausting.Β The magical change would allow me to concentrate on the emotional and psychological side of things.Β Changing means a whole lot of my past life is being “erased” in some ways, and certain parts hang over everything like a dark cloud.Β Eliminating the pain, stress, and financial strain of the physical transition would be priceless.
I am not going to overthink this one. Yes, absolutely I would. I could skip over the expense of surgery, injections and pills, and get to where I want to be, which is a woman in every way. And I am happily married, and my wife is totally on board with me transitioning. Now if my health will allow me to…
If the question can be interpreted as “Do you wish you were born biologically female?” then, yes.
If a genie grants me a wish, I would choose to be a cis woman.
IN A FEMTOSECOND…… (A <b>femtosecond</b> is the SI unit of time equal to 10<sup>-15</sup> or β<span class=”frac nowrap”><sup>1</sup>β<sub>1 000 000 000 000 000</sub></span> of a second; that is, one quadrillionth, or one millionth of one billionth, of a second.)
So yes, DO IT NOQ! Please, I beg you…… Hugs, Michelle
I agree with Beth Parker. It would have saved a lot of troubles for me, and possibly many others. Lots of time and money could have been saved. But thankfully, we have the transgender journey to appreciate for all it’s perils and victories.
I voted no as it wouldnβt change anything for me. As a transgender and non-binary person, I have never felt that I was in the wrong body. Thatβs how it sits for me. However, what took me many decades to realize that I have always been this amalgam of male and female energies, sensibilities and perspectives. While I essentially physically express my female side, that does not indicate any change in my thinking from an historical viewpoint. I still have the same likes and dislikes, interests and activities, only with things added such as shopping for clothes, jewelry and shoes and building a network of female friends.
Very interesting topic. My 1st response like some of you was YES, that was my dream, But now that I am living full time as a girl I think some of you might be right that I appreciate it more than some born female. I am also begining to realize that being a girl isn’t all fun and roses even though I am much happier since my transition because the real me is out. On the other hand, I would not have gone through all the transition stuff if I had been born female. Right now I am wanting to take the final jump to surgery. I want to have a bf, husband and maybe adopt so I can be a mom. At least that is what I hope for. So it would be a lot easier if I was born female to not need the surgery and could have a husband and become a mom.
This question kinda confuses me; is it asking if I would rather have been born biologically and mentally as a specific gender or is it asking if I would have rather been born with a gender that matches me biologically?
For me, I would rather be a cisgendered woman than a transgendered man. I hate being trans-anything. I just want to be a βnormalβ woman and human being. I feel like such a freak of nature.
Phoenix
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I completely agree. I can’t count the times I have wished I suddenly wake up one morning as a cicwoman. Or just being a ciswoman.
A lot of bad things in my life wouldn’t have happened if I were born a cicwoman. Girlfriends for example, I haven’t had a serious relationship in my entire life. I know now that the women “reads” me as a female without knowing why. I didn’t know that until I came out at my job and dare asking the girls why they all said “I am not surprised” when I came out.Not a single person I have come out to has been surprised. So it’s rather obvious, I behave like a woman in a man’s body, and that explains most of what has happened in my life. To make it more complicated I am mtf transgender that likes girls.
So definitely born as a ciswomanπMarry Christmas ππππ and a Lot of Hugs
Lily-Rose
Would I be willing to trayed yes but now not before. I realize I’ve dressed as a female since I was very young and have kept it hidden until now. But I can’t undo some of the major accomplishments I’ve achieve. Yes I wish I was a born a female and I would trade with some that has already gone through the surgery in a heart beat. I’ve been seeing councilor a lot . I don’t know how to come out with how I feel.
Definitely born as a ciswoman.
Positive reasons to start life as a ciswoman: I would not have been sent to conversion therapy when I was 5 years old and lost a year of my life. I would not have spent 60 years of my life not fitting in with male or female groups. I would not have spent the 20 years before I came out depressed with frequent thoughts of hurting myself. I would have had a female size body and not male size. I would have been able to have my own babies to birth and nurture. I would have had a husband/partner place a wedding ring on my finger. I would not have had to deal with gender dysphoria.
Negative reasons to start life as a ciswoman:Β Waiting over 60 years to start my transition has given me more appreciation of being female.
I feel like ive taught myself to have a masculine persona and thats what (most) people see me as, so for the sake of loved ones I would stay as me. But really I would love to be a cis woman, if only to stop trying to ignore the female departments in shops! But god if I could get rid of this shame and anguish. I wish I had faith to help me but I feel gods cant be very kind gods to put people through this. Change my body to female lord, please!…..nope, hasnt happend! Hugs n kissess to you all, nicola x
This came up in conversation once , the daughter of a friend made that offer. Unfortunately, itβs not possible in reality, as we would both have been hauler. To be clear, we discussed trading bodies only, not personality, or identity.
I had thought about this back in school. I would look at a really nice looking girl that had everything going for her, and wish I could just trade places with her.
Sadly, that would mean her life would be cursed to go through all the crap I have. I never would have learned many of the skills I have, and (instead) would have learned different ones.
Another difference: instead of never having kids, I would likely be a grandmother spoiling my grandkids now.
But, you would really have to feel sorry for the girl who switched bodies with me.
I hesitantly voted “yes”, but only if the cis woman was willing and capable of coping with, what would be most likely, a trans-woman life.Β It seems very morally dubious outside of having mutually strong reasons for the swap, though. Otherwise, if it were a lop-sided desire, I would vote “no” because I would feel I cheated someone out of their womanhood.
If it were possible with a cis woman, then why couldn’t it happen with a yet-to-transition trans-man?Β That would be most ideal and mutually beneficial, rather than one-sided.Β I would take that in a heartbeat.
While we’re on that, someone want to take a beard for a smooth face?Β My facial hair can grow fast in a week and would make some trans-man very happy, I think. π[postquote quote=35559]
No, because I needed to live my life and learn my battles. Being magically transformed does not change your mind, your fears, your strengths, your weaknesses. You have to change with your body and mind as one.So I would never do it, I would never be me If I ever did go for the magical change. It all part of growing and living life.
Hippie
Nicely put. My journey has made me who I am, and I like that person. Β Whatever body Iβm in self acceptance has to be paramount. Β So yesβ¦ it would be incredibly difficult to not experience being in a female body for even a day, but I am the sum of all my experiences, and to do that would be a Faustian bargain for sure: Β as a wish so easily granted always comes with a price. Is it a price Iβm willing to pay? Β So tempting!
Yes
While I wouldn’t want to be malicious, and strand another person in a body they didn’t want… If that option was in front of me… It would be INCREDIBLY hard to resist finding my absolute ideal body. Ideally I’d do a fair trade straight across with someone who was looking for the opposite as me; a cis woman seeking FtM. With that on the table? I would not be able to do it fast enough!
I always wanted to be a girl.Β A girl, an honest to goodness girl, with all the girl things to do, all the girl things to learn, and all the boys to flirt with.
I never wanted to be a boy.Β So now I am a transgender-woman, and I am a woman now.
I didn’t fantasize being a transgender-girl, I fantasized being a girl.
I would trade in a blink to be a cis-girl, and I would want this miracle to have happened 68 years ago.
Love the question and thought but OMG are you kidding! Clothes, makeup, jewelry, fragrance and slow dancing! Beam me up Scotty… francie
does the clone have consciousness? If so, that’s just a genetically similar cis person, aka my sister… I would not kill my sister and wear her skin…..
I missed this comment before.Β No, I don’t think I could change with a fully developed clone, but I have great hopes that they medical folks will soon be able to clone the necessary body parts necessary for a proper gender change.Β They’re already cloning livers and hearts in the labs, so they should be able to someday take my genes and clone me a real vagina, uterus and clitoris.Β I imagine they would get the process started and implant everything so it could complete growing inside me.Β Hopefully they could make it age appropriate, as I don’t think I want to deal with menses when I’m in my 80s.
I wanted to say yes..puberty..1st period..lol, period..period…pregnancy and childbirth. Wow. My dream come true. Had you said I could trade with a f2m Trans, YESSS!! But I could not give my life to another undeserving person. My life has been amazingly cruel and heartbreaking. No way would I give that to someone else. But thanks for this. It was very interesting and it made me think a lot. π
π – Jessica
Oh how many times did I dream of that option from very young thru puberty and adult life. But I have to say that the option is no. Now that I am exploring this new journey and all of its joy’s and pains. I have also started to study my past and the experiences gained. I now slowly grasp that I am, the sum total of all I have been through. If I remove things or all of it, than who am I?? I’m beginning to thank that past and the male me that got me thru that time. Shiloh
I voted yes first, but then changed to no because my dysphoria is such a huge part of my psyche I don’t even know who I’d be without it. I have gone through a lot of pain and misery, starting from early childhood and a part of me would do ANYTHING to have skipped all of it, still it taught me to read people, to be compassionate and to reflect on what I do before I do it. I’m not saying I’m the only person who has these qualities, but I wonder if I’d still have them without my life experience. So theoretically yes, but if it came down to actually flipping the switch…I’m not really so sure. Great question though.
I wanted to vote yes but then I thought of my response to an article I just got done reading a few minutes ago on here and realized where life would have been better if I was born cis female, I would not be as strong or perfect a woman as I am today because of the hardships I’ve been through, but being born a hermaphrodite technically disqualifies me from this poll because where I look like a man I have always been biologically a female as well making me cis-gender neutral. If I was born looking like a woman I would worry about being conceded or vain or shallow and superficial as most cis women tend to be now days and that goes against who I am as a person most likely because of all I have been through which keeps me humble and willing good fortune and happiness on everyone from the bottom of my heart and with my entire being.
I almost answered Yes. Fortunately, my Anti-Idiot protocol kicked in and reminded me that the question was “Would you trade your sex identity with a CIS?” Not “Would you trade your sex identity with an FTM?” So, I answeredΒ NO. While there are a good many CIS gendered women who richly deserve to have this forced on them, making that choice would be an undeniable act of evil. And having made that choice, I would instantly become deserving of every horrible thing that has befallen me in my life. So again, I say, my answer is NO. I may not be a very good woman, but I will not be any more evil than I can help.
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denoting or relating to a molecular structure in which two particular atoms or groups lie on the same side of a given plane in the molecule, in particular denoting an isomer in which substituents at opposite ends of a carbonβcarbon double bond are on the same side of the bond.
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Well, I’m at a loss but if I could switch with a girl who wanted to be a guy, in a fair trade and we agree, then I would say, yes.
The question doesn’t purport to foist a negative onto the person we’d be changing to. If It did I’d vote no as I have no right to change another’s existence in any way; without permission.
If I had their permission then heck yes, absolutely. Alacadabra I’d suddenly be a cis woman. I wouldn’t even have to think about it.
I’m also assuming I get to keep what is ‘me’; my personality. I don’t want a female body if I have to totally become someone else. If y’all run across anyone who wishes to trade be sure and let me know. LOL
Michelle
I said yes. Ii did so mainly because life would have been so much less complicated. I can’t change the fact that I am trans and love being me (when I can) and I can’t change the fact that I grew up entirely in a masculine world (except for my private times). Since I have realized that I am trans (just two years ago… and I am 76) I have realized that my gender identity really ruined my marriage. I feel like I cheated and disappointed my wife who died three years ago. I will probably ever get over the fact that I should not have ever married….. that I was not a real man. That bothers me. yet I enjoy being me and love being feminine. I find myself in aΒ true “conundrum” (with proper respects to Jan Morris).
I really identity and sympathize with your situation. I, too, am an old geezer (75), happily married, but worried that my gender feelings will upset my marriage. But unlike you, I enjoy the marriage part of being male. At least for the moment, my life is very happy, so I voted ‘no’ on the cis question. In addition, I don’t like the macho, aggressive, power-hungry maleness and prefer the softer, gentler side of my personality.
Of all the females that have looked at me and said “I wish I were tall like you”…If any truly wanted to swap their stunning female bodies with a 6’8” giant of unusual health and masculinity…YES, in a heartbeat.
Not one human on planet earth would ever think I could even remotely pass as my desired sex, so yes, a thousand times yes.
I deal with a similar problem.Β Not height but width.Β My should span is a couple inches wider than the average male my age and about 4 inches wider then women my age.Β Makes buying clothes very difficult because I wear a size 8 or 10 bottoms, medium, and anywhere from Large to XXL tops depending on the brand.
Absolutely. Even for just one day in my life, I would love to experience what it would be like to not think about gender, just one day.
I answered yes, but only if I could do it from the start, at puberty, so I would grow up and learn with a bunch of girlfriends going through the same experiences. I am sometimes jealous that I won’t ever have the experience of learning about things like makeup with friends and missing things like staying up all night giggling and playing at sleepovers.
I think that is what I’d wish for even now.Β A group of friends to share the experience and learning with.Β I know 7 people in this area, 5 of them are a family, and the oldest girl in the family is transgender who transitioned a couple decades ago.Β The other two people are friends of Jill, the trans girl.Β I feel very along and often lost.
I would love to be cis woman instead of transgender…
but would I make another endurΓ© being transgender so I could be cis? Γ much toucher question, as I’d wish transgender on nobody…yes we get time in both genders but it ..the transition is painful n awkward n lonely as family n friends run away..not sure I could make another go through this for my comfort..maybe God gave me the burden knowing I could handle it?
Γ manΒ iΒ respected volunteered to serve n went to Vietnam..in part so somebody else’s son would not have to go..I respect that..maybe God made me transgender so someone else would not be?
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missy jo
I agree I would much rather be cis instead of transgender,Β but I often wonder about it from a cultural level.Β Many of the Native American tribes referred to transgender people as two spirit people, and they had a special honor among their people.Β How different would it be for all of us if our society accepted us and did everything possible to help avoid the pain and awkwardness and uncertainty and there was no downside?
Absolutely, why would anyone want to be trans? I hate myself more than the haters.
I’m a woman. I can never be a cis woman. If I was a cis woman I wouldn’t want to be anything else.
Yes, if it was possible to trade with an FtM person, I would do so in a heartbeat.Β That way we would both get what we desired.Β The only problem would be that whoever got this body would also get some very bad genetic mental issues that took me a decade to learn to deal with after I learned about them when I was 39.Β Those I wouldn’t wish on anyone.
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