HYPOTHETICAL: Would you trade your sex identity with a cis?

Would you magically trade your sex identity with a cis person, if you had the option?

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  • This topic has 42 replies, 32 voices, and was last updated 2 days ago by Hippie.
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    • #93217

      This is just an interesting hypothetical. Trans people don’t deserve to have the wrong body anymore than cis people do. It’s hard to give someone else a plight that they didn’t ask for, but at the same time you didn’t deserve being born in the wrong body. You could have the ideal body you feel you should have been born with. Maybe you can’t justify it morally, but it’s still a tempting offer. Do you do it?

      No, because I needed to live my life and learn my battles. Being magically transformed does not change your mind, your fears, your strengths, your weaknesses. You have to change with your body and mind as one.

      So I would never do it, I would never be me If I ever did go for the magical change. It all part of growing and living life.


    • #92476

      I hesitantly voted “yes”, but only if the cis woman was willing and capable of coping with, what would be most likely, a trans-woman life.  It seems very morally dubious outside of having mutually strong reasons for the swap, though. Otherwise, if it were a lop-sided desire, I would vote “no” because I would feel I cheated someone out of their womanhood.

      If it were possible with a cis woman, then why couldn’t it happen with a yet-to-transition trans-man?  That would be most ideal and mutually beneficial, rather than one-sided.  I would take that in a heartbeat.
      While we’re on that, someone want to take a beard for a smooth face?  My facial hair can grow fast in a week and would make some trans-man very happy, I think. 😉

    • #92462

      Oh yes, in a heartbeat I would switch, don’t get me wrong I am happy with me after all these years but I  I still have a very long road and I’m not a little (girl )anymore, I have prayed many times to wake up to be a girl/women, yes bring on the spell…..


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    • #92109

      I had thought about this back in school. I would look at a really nice looking girl that had everything going for her, and wish I could just trade places with her.

      Sadly, that would mean her life would be cursed to go through all the crap I have. I never would have learned many of the skills I have, and (instead) would have learned different ones.

      Another difference: instead of never having kids, I would likely be a grandmother spoiling my grandkids now.

      But, you would really have to feel sorry for the girl who switched bodies with me.

      • #92458
        Greg Little

        Who cares about the girl Sarah!!! She’s got the body! We are going to get the body!!!

    • #91862

      This came up in conversation once , the daughter of a friend made that offer. Unfortunately, it’s not possible in reality, as we would both have been hauler. To be clear, we discussed trading bodies only, not personality, or identity.

      • #91863
        Cassie Grey

        Oh yes the magical body swap spell. I think we all may have wished we’d find one of those.

    • #91861

      I feel like ive taught myself to have a masculine persona and thats what (most) people see me as, so for the sake of loved ones I would stay as me. But really I would love to be a cis woman, if only to stop trying to ignore the female departments in shops! But god if I could get rid of this shame and anguish. I wish I had faith to help me but I feel gods cant be very kind gods to put people through this. Change my body to female lord, please!…..nope, hasnt happend! Hugs n kissess to you all, nicola x

    • #91860
      Cassie Grey

      I voted no for the reason- people aren’t looking at the question.

      To trade- You get mine, I get yours.

      If a female in my case was interested and willing to become male the anwser would be YES. I would trade with her in a heartbeat.

    • #91827

      Definitely born as a ciswoman.

      Positive reasons to start life as a ciswoman: I would not have been sent to conversion therapy when I was 5 years old and lost a year of my life. I would not have spent 60 years of my life not fitting in with male or female groups. I would not have spent the 20 years before I came out depressed with frequent thoughts of hurting myself. I would have had a female size body and not male size. I would have been able to have my own babies to birth and nurture. I would have had a husband/partner place a wedding ring on my finger. I would not have had to deal with gender dysphoria.

      Negative reasons to start life as a ciswoman:  Waiting over 60 years to start my transition has given me more appreciation of being female.

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    • #91824
      Andria Aloi

      Would I be willing to trayed yes but now not before. I realize I’ve dressed as a female since I was very young and have kept it hidden until now. But I can’t undo some of the major accomplishments I’ve achieve. Yes I wish I was a born a female and I would trade with some that has already gone through the surgery in a heart beat. I’ve been seeing councilor a lot . I don’t know how to come out with how I feel.

    • #91817

      I have always felt like I was shipped in the wrong container and feel that if it were different from the start I would not have as much depression issues as I do now.

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    • #91784

      This question kinda confuses me; is it asking if I would rather have been born biologically and mentally as a specific gender or is it asking if I would have rather been born with a gender that matches me biologically?

      For me, I would rather be a cisgendered woman than a transgendered man. I hate being trans-anything. I just want to be a “normal” woman and human being. I feel like such a freak of nature.


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      • #91815


        I completely agree. I can’t count the times I have wished I suddenly wake up one morning as a cicwoman. Or just being a ciswoman.
        A lot of bad things in my life wouldn’t have happened if I were born a cicwoman. Girlfriends for example, I haven’t had a serious relationship in my entire life. I know now that the women “reads” me as a female without knowing why. I didn’t know that until I came out at my job and dare asking the girls why they all said “I am not surprised” when I came out.Not a single person I have come out to has been surprised. So it’s rather obvious, I behave like a woman in a man’s body, and that explains most of what has happened in my life. To make it more complicated I am mtf transgender that likes girls.
        So definitely born as a ciswoman😀

        Marry Christmas 🎄🎄🎄🎄 and a Lot of Hugs

    • #91693

      Very interesting topic. My 1st response like some of you was YES, that was my dream, But now that I am living full time as a girl I think some of you might be right that I appreciate it more than some born female. I am also begining to realize that being a girl isn’t all fun and roses even though I am much happier since my transition because the real me is out. On the other hand, I would not have gone through all the transition stuff if I had been born female. Right now I am wanting to take the final jump to surgery. I want to have a bf, husband and maybe adopt so I can be a mom. At least that is what I hope for. So it would be a lot easier if I was born female to not need the surgery and could have a husband and become a mom.

    • #91184
      DeeAnn Hopings

      I voted no as it wouldn’t change anything for me. As a transgender and non-binary person, I have never felt that I was in the wrong body. That’s how it sits for me. However, what took me many decades to realize that I have always been this amalgam of male and female energies, sensibilities and perspectives. While I essentially physically express my female side, that does not indicate any change in my thinking from an historical viewpoint. I still have the same likes and dislikes, interests and activities, only with things added such as shopping for clothes, jewelry and shoes and building a network of female friends.

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    • #91169

      I agree with Beth Parker. It would have saved a lot of troubles for me, and possibly many others. Lots of time and money could have been saved. But thankfully, we have the transgender journey to appreciate for all it’s perils and victories.

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    • #91161

      IN A FEMTOSECOND…… (A femtosecond is the SI unit of time equal to 10-15 or ​11 000 000 000 000 000 of a second; that is, one quadrillionth, or one millionth of one billionth, of a second.)

      So yes, DO IT NOQ! Please, I beg you…… Hugs, Michelle

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    • #91159
      Ms. Kyra

      If the question can be interpreted as “Do you wish you were born biologically female?” then, yes.

      If a genie grants me a wish, I would choose to be a cis woman.





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    • #91136

      I am not going to overthink this one. Yes, absolutely I would. I could skip over the expense of surgery, injections and pills, and get to where I want to be, which is a woman in every way. And I am happily married, and my wife is totally on board with me transitioning. Now if my health will allow me to…

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    • #91124

      If you mean to ask whether I would trade identity with another person who also wanted to change theirs to mine…in a NY minute!!!  As I am older, the transition is more difficult physically and emotionally exhausting.  The magical change would allow me to concentrate on the emotional and psychological side of things.  Changing means a whole lot of my past life is being “erased” in some ways, and certain parts hang over everything like a dark cloud.  Eliminating the pain, stress, and financial strain of the physical transition would be priceless.

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    • #90471

      Would I trade being me with a lifetime of shame and self loathing for someone with a matching brain and body.


      Would I care if it was male or female.

      No, as long as they matched and I didn’t have to feel this way.

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    • #53937

      My knee jerk reaction was YES! EMPHATICALLY! INSTANTLY! but then I stop to think and I must change my answer to no.

      Justify it says.

      1) in my experience it seems many cis-women (note many, not all) do not deeply appreciate their feminity or the awesome power they wield when they properly work their feminity. Is it just me, or do we trans-women truly appreciate our womanhood in a way cis woman don’t or perhaps csn’t? To just switch sexes with a cis woman and find my womanhood a mediocre thing at best is not a mediocrity that I am willing or desire to embrace.

      2) at times I have thought, “why couldn’t I have been born as one of my sister’s?” (I have three) Then I step back and look at their lives. Would I want to be were they are today in their lives? No. But had I been born a girl in our family, reared by the same mom they were, the possibilities are very strong I would be just like them. My love of womanhood is because I am trans. Had I been nurtured in the same environment as my sisters that love of womanhood would be so missing. I like the woman I am as I am.

      3) Have you ever noticed how many cis women are not nearly as happy with their womanhood as we fantasize what being a woman would be like. I’ve noticed a lot of wearied, pained, discontented, less-than-truly-happy cis women. Because I am just your average person, if I were cis what makes me think I wouldn’t be like the average cis woman I know. I probably wouldn’t be any different as I navigate the routine of life.

      No, I am OK with being a trans woman. I truly value the perspective of womanhood that I have been given. Should I ever finally make the choice to live my womanhood full time I will be able to take this perspective, developed over the years of deciding what kind of woman I would be, into my transition. With that solid foundation I would then become the woman, estatic to finally embrace full time womanhood. that I have always known myself to be.

      Magically changing sex may the easy way, but I have found in life that anything worth having is worth working hard for.



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    • #53829
      Miss Cloé

      This was about the physical body not gender.

    • #53825

      I don’t like hypothetical questions, it’s not reality!!

    • #53673
      DeeAnn Hopings

      The title should have been Gender Identity and not Sex Identity…

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    • #35673

      After reading your post a second and third time. I love this question. It sent me into a whirlwind of thought. I read the responses and I learned the pain, the self shaming, the anxiety of just   not knowing what is wrong with us. We would not want any one to suffer as much as we did.and still do in my case. I am so happy I belong to a group of people who’s morality comes first. Now having said that if I could wake up one morning and have the body I am suppose to have or should I say want to have and it came from a cis woman who woke up with my body and she knew she was a woman before she went to sleep. My concearn is she would figure out what happened and would track me down and toture me for the rest of my pretty, cute and gorgeous new life. But I know I could help her understand what a gift I gave her. The possibilities are endless . I love this ❤️ question it got me through the day thank you Luv Stephanie

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    • #35637

      From my current position, being a transgender female I would love to have been born a female and I would change places with a cis female if no harm to someone else. The problem with this scenario is that I wouldn’t know this if I wasn’t transgender. I love who I am and I’ll make the best of this fulfilling experience. I’m special and if I was born female I would still have to work to be special. And the things you learn about being female are priceless, owe to the wonderful beauty of the feminine. I’m obsessed what can I say. Much love .

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    • #35621

      I think the best option would be if some of us trans women could do a trade with trans men. Win/Win for everyone.

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    • #35603

      I desperately want to be a woman but trading places would not be the way for me. I do recall as a 7 year old wishing I could wake up as a girl. Conversely I do enjoy being me so if the opportunity arises I would have the op. For now I will continue with the hormones and dream.

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    • #35592

      Hello, not sure if I read the question correctly so I reread it a few times. If you mean would I change places with a cis person be it male or female, and they would assume my transgender gender.  The answer is a flat no.  I would not wish it on my enemy and certainly not an innocent or loved one.😔


      If you mean by the question that I could magically be a cis male or female from birth and no one else gets harmed. Then absolutely sign me up.  But at present I would prefer female, please. 😉

      However the question does not actually ask about gender it seems to ask about sex.  Almost as if it was the asker was trading sex for ??? Sex?  I do this with my spouse but not anyone else. And trading sexual preferences I would not as it really does not bother me.  However I am sure I am just being an word lawyer so refer to my other two answers.  😉




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      • #35612
        Miss Cloé

        I updated the question to remove the implication it is about trading sex favors.

    • #35571
      Miss Cloé

      Assuming this CIS person was enlightened and willing to take on life changing adventures I would have said yes in the past.  Desperately I would have.
      But an emphatic NO is my answer.
      Now that I’m living full time as my true self and going through my own adventure and some serious trials one might think even more so a yes answer would be better.  Maybe I’ve picked up that need for the challenge of a lifetime to go along with the simple/complex overwhelming need to be me.  Like many who have undertaken harrowing challenges like climbing Mt Everest, there are those who encourage me.  Yet there are many more who look at me with the eye of “go ahead, I’m not participating in this train wreck” and simply walk away for myriad reasons.  There are even the few who aggressively insist I live life their way – no more.
      Living life on my terms with free will, no longer caged by fear, yet still having so much to learn about myself.

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      • #35604

        You have voiced my own feelings Cloe. My situation at the moment is difficult apart from the transitioning (which strangely enough motivates me) so that a few years ago I would have collapsed in a heap, but now I feel determined and confident enough to battle it out.

    • #35568
      Danielle Fox

      I Know this choice is selfish of me. But how do we know that the CIS female isn’t in reality a transgender male? As an addendum to my answer I would swap with a transgender male. While I know that is not the question, the reality of my answer under the influence of sleeping medications is not humane. So I would search out a transgender male and come to an agreement. I am sure he wants this as badly as I do.

      Danielle 💋👠👗

    • #35562

      I would never impose the agony, pain and a life of confusion on any one. No one deserves it.  Luv Stephanie

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      • #91165

        Hi. Exactly what I’ve been feeling all my life. The pain of never getting a girlfriend, because I was a girl in a boys body (and it took me 50 years to find that out).

    • #35561
      Danielle Fox

      Given the right circumstances I would in a heartbeat 💗! Those circumstances would be never meeting my wife❤️💕💕!

      Danielle 💋👠👗

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      • #35605
        Danielle Fox

        Wow! This didn’t even sound right! I sound like a lunatic and unhappily married which couldn’t be further from the truth. Well at least the unhappily married part. As I remark a bit further up in the post I would search out a transgender male and arrange a swap so we both get what we would want. The catch or reason I would not do this would be I love my wife too much to lose her so this is not an option for me but very intriguing question.
        Danielle 💋👠👗

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