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After you tried on your ex-wife’s clothes, did you buy more clothes for yourself? Did you keep trying on women’s clothes? How often are you in women’s clothing compared to men’s clothing?
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I didn’t buy any clothes for myself until I decided to transition at the beginning of this year. I am female at home and wear women’s clothes at home all the time now. I just haven’t been out in public as female yet because of my voice. It is my biggest insecurity. I’m currently taking voice lessons. Hopefully soon I can be me in public too.
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Awww…Bless your heart, honey. I’m crying my eyes out over your Mom giving you a daughter card. Omg, how sweet and special!! I’m older than you (59) and my dear mom passed 5 years ago. I only came out a few weeks ago and my wife keeps asking me why I didnt do it years ago. More and more I wish I had. I know my mother would have understood knowing her kind supportive nature; I’m sure of it. My holding on to that facade for so long was just time wasted.
Even though mom is gone like I said; I had a similar moment in counseling. I am so new to this whole process that even though I knew what I wanted my name to be I hadn’t even considered bringing it up. My therapist, who is just a wonderful caring cis woman asked me point blank what my name was and what my preferred pronouns were….the tears flowed. That was, for me, the moment when it all became not just fantasy but reality. I burst into tears again, next session, when she told me that my chosen name was on record there and I could use it to sign in. To many that might seem a small thing but it meant so very much to me…
Your story is so beautiful hon, just lovely..thank you…Josey Jay
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Loved the openness of your story Faith. I loved the animated series too, however Harley was my muse in it, guess I am just a tad crazy.
And the card, OMG 😪 thank you for sharing that.
You and you ex must be close in size, me and my wife are and she gets so pissed if I “borrow” her stuff. So I have learned to have a separate closet. Voice can be a challenge but do not let it stop you from going out the door, most of the time people do not notice or care anyway. 😞. Most of it is in your head or at least it is in mine that people are watching, usually they are too caught up in themselves to notice, and voice is only 20% of your communication, body language being the rest. What are you doing for voice training?
Sorry to hear about your family passing.
Miriya
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Thank you so much! My therapist keeps telling me the same thing about people not even noticing but I just really want to sound “right”. Like I can finally dress the way I feel and I’m on HRT to look the way I feel and I want my voice to match as well you know? I have a deep guy voice and just don’t feel right being myself but with that voice. I was seeing a voice teacher on Skype but that didn’t work out too well because of finances and my internet being so slow. So now I’m just taking what other trans women have told me and what I read and watch online and trying to use it all on my own.
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Thank you for sharing your story, Faith.
I was so sorry to hear that you have almost no family left now, but pleased that your mother accepts you as the daughter you’ve always been.
Yes, it would be great to know how you chose your nme! Please tell us…. or send the link if you already did.
Take care xxx
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Hi Faith,
Like you I live in a part time femme world. Female at home, male at work. I have come out to my ex and my grown children (I am much older than you). Just started HRT in the last four months. Nervous about going out. I found it interesting that your therapist said almost the same thing as mine word for word.l “People are too busy with their own lives to notice anything.” She keeps encouraging me to go out more fully dressed and made up. I’m beginning to think there is something to what they are both saying. I just have to make the leap of faith (pardon the pun). Good on you for recognizing and becoming who you are.
Jennifer
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