Need Some Advice Quickly

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  • #88431
    Jennifer Scott
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    Hi,

    I’m meeting an old friend of mine for lunch tomorrow.  We worked together for a number of years.  I have come out slowly to some intimate friends and have been from time to time.  I am debating on whether to say anything or not.  Some things to me appear obvious:  nail polish, earrings, hairless.  However, I find sometimes he can be obtuse about such things,  I don’t know if I will lose a friendship or if he will blab it around before I have a chance to come out to my circle of ex work mates myself.  How have others handled this?

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    • #88854
      Randi Lowe
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      I recently did the same with my 14 year old son. He was like ok, and said it didn’t change anything. This new generations are so accepting of LGBTQ.  Wouldn’t it be great if the whole world was more accepting?

    • #88553
      Jennifer Scott
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      Hi Chris,

      Yes I am at the stage where I would LOVE to go out and about as Jennifer.  I have done it sometimes: taken walks, short trips to the grocery store, etc.  I also know the more I do it the more chances that others I know will see me.  There will come a time when everyone will know, I am hoping that happens after retirement.  Unlike you it’s not so much the employer that is fine but it’s the people I need to work with at all times.  Some will be good with it and I have confidentially told them and they have so far respected my wishes to let me disclose.  There are others who are totally against trans and they are truly open about it.  It’s a real balancing act.

      Personally I love the changes I am seeing: breast growth, softening of the face, redistribution of fat.  I feel I am in heaven, Transgender Heaven.

      Jennifer

    • #88552
      Jennifer Scott
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      Hi,

      Well things went better than expected.  Stress for nothing.  He was very good with it and said it made no difference.  All good.

      Thank you for your responses.  I appreciate them all.

    • #88433
      Josie J
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      I came out to my assistant on FaceTime and asked she not spread around the information since I am not otherwise out at work as of yet. It’s strange, people don’t often seem to understand what is going on at time unless you are explicit, but if you would like to come out to others on your I would simply ask your friend to honor that.

      there is always risk of gossip, and loss of friendship, but if they do not what to be friends with you as you are I imagine you will be better off in the long run finding out so you can move on. As far as the other friends, I imagine they will find out eventually anyway—would not be the best if your friend breached your confidence and was disrespectful, but we only can ask politely—it is up to others to be good human beings 🙂

       

      Good luck to you 🙂

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    • #88432
      Chris Landwer
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      My only advice is to believe in yourself. I told my trans friends, and doctors and then family. I only dress in public sometimes, but I would like to more. I am a little concerned about my employer and their response. I dress as often as I can and think you probably want too as well. Good luck and remember you are the most important person you should be concerned about.

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