What happens to the marriage?

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This topic contains 4 replies, has 4 voices, and was last updated by  Dasia Anderl 4 months ago.

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    Reuby Bell

    I have been a mtf ts since 1992. I live in California. My license was changed to female with a new female first name. Then, in 2011 I received a letter telling me that without SRS I had to revert back to the name and gender on my birth certificate. I tried to live female w/ a male ID, but it became problematic and I had to revert to living male, which I had no idea how to do. I just married my common-law wife of 18 years, which really brought my tendencies to the forefront. I wanted to be a bride! After finding out there was aqua way to get the female ID I began to prepare to become fem again and continue my journey. Now wife is concerned about the marital status. Does anyone know?

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     Dasia Anderl 


    Hi Reuby,

    Here in Minnesota I ran into some conflict with marriage law concerning my transitioned name. I requested my 9 year old marriage certificate to be changed to reflect my name. I changed it almost two years prior along with my gender. The judge allowed my last name change, took my partner’s, but refused to amend our marriage certificate. So now a dead man, or non existent, man is married to my partner. I called Lambda Legal but they weren’t able to resolve it. I would recommend you find a lawyer that specializes in gender issues. Best wishes to you and your wife as you battle this one!! I’d love to know how it goes for you two. Hugs!

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     Cloe (CC) Webb 
    Managing Ambassador


    Really good question and one I have not come across.  I can see a number of issues coming up if someone were to challenge for s marriage certificate, but honestly can’t recall that ever happening.  This may be a good one to engage an attorney in your state.  If you do some research I know we would love to hear about what you find.


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       Reuby Bell 


      I finally hooked up with this state’s legal service and found out I can change my legal name and gender and it does not change our marital status. Our gender center is preparing documents for me to take to the court to have that done. If not sooner, I am hoping to have my identity reflect the true me.

      with love, Reuby Louise

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     Dame Veronica Graunwolf 

    Rueby…..hi sister. I am not sure about what this all means as I am single and stayed single. I know its is OK for sames sexes to marry in many States/Provinces and countries now. I assume that cross-dresses can do so and transgenders. In Canada your documentation can read male/female/other but you need verification from medical sources to do so. Then…things are cool. Check your local regulations for passport/drivers licenses and birth certificates. Don’t be afraid to ask them these questions….mostly, they don’t care.  Good luck, sweetie!

    Dame Veronica


    Dame Veronica Graunwolf

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